I see my bestfriend once a week and she feels thats not enough and goes on about how much she misses me and wishes we could spend more time. She is afraid we are drifting apart. I feel that once a week is fine. I have alot going on in my life and don't have the energy to hang out two week nights a week after working all day. Do you think I am wrong and I should give in to her? I don't have kids and I was just married a few months ago and she wants me to be her unmarried friend agian that can hang out whenever. I don't know what do you think?
2006-12-19 10:42:05 · 7 answers · asked by BabyDolll128 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I see my bestfriend Maybe a few nights out of a month. I am married with a baby she isnt. She did the same to me but I didnt give into her. she is now with a man she wants to marry and she dosnt have as much time for us anymore. wierd how it happens huh. dont give in.
2006-12-19 10:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is my husband, and we of course spend every day together when we're not working. My other friendships have naturally taken the back seat once to my marriage. We keep a few friendships, but we maybe hang out with other people once a month or so, and it's usually our common friends, I don't just go and spend time with "my" friends. I think, it all depends on your need for socialization, but I found that the dynamics of the "friendship" change when one of the friends gets married; the single friend is kind of left out in the cold. I'd say that what's happening between you and your best friend is natural - it isn't your fault, don't let her trick you into feeling guilty. She will adjust to the new "schedule". Maybe if she gets married one day, you guys can socialize as couples. Sometimes it works better this way.
2006-12-19 18:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to continue to be married, then you need to tell your friend to back off. Right now is your time for your new wife and your self, to learn about each other, without her interfering. If she can't deal with this, then you need to find a new friend and tell to go to hell. For she is trying to destroy your marriage to your new wife because of jealousies. Don't give into her, you have a new life that needs your attention more, work on that and not her. Your marriage will be more fulfilling for it.
2006-12-19 19:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by patricia h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend needs to respect the fact that you are a newlywed and you have to have your own life as well. She seems needy. Once a week is fine with me.
2006-12-19 18:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by sofiedriskell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is asking too much. YOu should spend more time with your husband. She should go out and find herself a bf and get married.
2006-12-20 06:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is my husband and I spend seven days a week with him!
2006-12-19 18:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you explain to her that you are married now and then you were single she might understand.. on weekends..
2006-12-19 18:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋