English Deutsch Français Italiano Español Português 繁體中文 Bahasa Indonesia Tiếng Việt ภาษาไทย
All categories

I think some marriages serve a purpose for a specific period of time and are not meant to last does anyone else believe this or
am I missing something. Life is short why should you be unhappy?
I just dont understand people that feel you should be unhappy if you have tried everything you can first and stay married because you made a promise 5 , 10 or more years ear.lier

2006-12-19 10:33:54 · 25 answers · asked by scout1567 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

25 answers

Yes. My husband and I have been married 27 years BUT when we started out we agreed that if either of us were unhappy we would go our separate ways. We were both married before, him for 5 and me for 1, and we remained friends with our exes because we had the belief that NOT ALL marriages stay happy forever.

2006-12-19 10:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by ஐAldaஐ 6 · 2 0

That is a tough one. I have been married for 5 years and if any one would have told me 5 years ago that marriage was this hard I may have rethinked things a bit. I know that marriage is work but it should never be unbearable work and in away I think I know how you feel. You only get to live life once and why should you settle. On the other hand we took vows and maybe if we can look back on that day and remember why that will give us the answers we need. Divorce is the easy way out people say and I agree but at the same time I think it can be one of the hardest things to commit to doing. Good luck and be happy.

2006-12-19 10:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Love2 2 · 0 0

Ideally you'd like to think marriages last forever but they don't. People make mistakes, grow apart and decide they want different things that what they thought there partner could provide. There are many different reasons which are completely valid. No one should spend an iota of time unhappy. Life is way too short and the magic of a new day is you have the personal choice to start over and make better choices based on learning from bad ones. But marriage is not be taken lightly. It's not a simple agreement to be jumped in and out of. I think if two people are willing to make it work they should exhaust all their options and avenues of repairing their union before giving up particularly of there are kids invloved or other serious consequences that could occur as the result of a divorce.

2006-12-19 10:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0 0

True, some marriages just werent ever meant to be lone less last forever. But on the other hand some marriages should have never ended either, but both parties bailed out before actually trying to save their marriage. There is nothing in life that ever guarantees that we will always be happy and since none of us ever knows just how long our life will be then we should be happy for the time we have and what we got. Good luck and Merry Christmas

2006-12-19 10:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0 0

well as you said you made a promise....that's why alot of people don't accept teenagers getting married...they feel they are not mature enough to make that decision...b/c yes you're promising to be together FOREVER....forever doesn't mean...2 months....or 5 years...so even if there are problems you should be able to work them out b/c you're considered as one...my Mother married my father b/c she wanted a family...now they're separated....I just don't understand...why you would promise to do something...and not mean it....or you meant it at that time...but now you're giving up....I don't want that...that's why they say marriage is a serous commitment
people may call me foolish for believing that a marriage can last...or should last...but that's the way it's suppose to be... should be

2006-12-19 10:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by 1 5 · 0 0

Yeah... unfortunately. However, I believe that if you truly feel life is short to be unhappy when you're married to someone, then by all means you should not get married. It's true that a marriage license is only a piece of paper, but that piece of paper is also a "contract" between 2 people... so if you're unsure, you best not go through with it.

2006-12-19 10:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by Purelica 4 · 1 0

enable me commence by technique of announcing that i do not imagine marriage takes away the uniqueness of both individual. merely because you're uniting mutually does no longer propose that you're not any further persons. as far because the call substitute is worried- it extremely is a own perference. there are a range of reward to being married as well wedding ceremony bands and having the same very last call. the way I see it, the significant income of marriage has no longer some thing to do with legality. once you develop into married, your conception of one and different adjustments. Your dedication aspect will advance, no matter if you've been mutually for a lengthy time period and/or already percentage the same significant different and little ones. you're taking issues more beneficial heavily. the entire relationship adjustments. nevertheless, getting married isn't neccessary. that is a own determination.

2016-11-27 20:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

People grow and change. That's why getting married young is a bad idea. Sure, some marriages should end but only after you have tried to make it work in every way possible and then it still doesn't

2006-12-19 10:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0 0

marriage should be taken seriously...i beleive that is the main reason why marriages fail, because people dont take the time to know one another or consider what it would be like to be with their mate forever...if a marriage was meant to only last 5 or ten years...whyeven get married...should have just stayed single and continued dating one another.

2006-12-19 10:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I think almost everyone goes into a marriage hoping/expecting it to last. Obviously 50% of the time they are wrong.

Every single person I've known who got married before they were 25 years old, has gotten divorced. I think it should be a law that you have to wait until you are 25.

2006-12-19 10:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by Uncle Pennybags 7 · 0 0

fedest.com, questions and answers