Shock, acceptance, horror? I would like to know some of your experiences... also any parents whose children have told them they are gay...how did you feel then and now?
Thanks yall xxxx
2006-12-19 10:20:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks for all your answers guys...its good to hear your feedback and to hear about so many positive outcomes.. although I am aware that it is not the same for everyone xx The reason I ask is that my own mother is struggling coming to terms with my sexuality and I just wanted to know about others experiences with family acceptance - because this is important, yet not crucial, to me. It is just good to hear of others positivity :)
2006-12-19 10:35:03 · update #1
My parents were very positive. They were sitting in the living room and my mom was reading a Christmas letter from my cousin and his partner. She asked me if I knew if they were a gay couple. This was the perfect opportunity for me to come out. I said yes, and then said, "This is probably a good time to tell you this, I'm gay. My mom responded by saying "you are?" and then she asked how long I knew and how I knew. I told her I had known a long time and that I just knew. She said that she was glad that I shared it with her. My dad was very quiet and didn't say anything. Although, he is a quiet person anyway. I am sure he is okay with it, because he doesn't act any different around me. Later that evening my mom came in to my room and again thanked me for telling her, she said she knew it must have been hard for me and that I could talk to her about it whenever I wanted and that she loved me. Luckily, I have very great and understanding parents.
2006-12-19 12:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Hmmm... 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i came out to my parents (as an MTF TGirl) in a most unusual way...... i went to their house dressed en femme. i had on a short red suit, white blouse, red heels and my makeup was done by a professional makeup artist friend of mine in my parents home town. i rang the door bell, and my mom answered and asked me "may i help you ma'am?". i cracked up laughing. needless to say my mother was anything but amused and my father (being a former marine drill instructor) was even less thrilled. their whole take was they raised a son, not a daughter. even after i explained why, they have not spoken a word to me in over 10 years. i dont know if they are dead or alive. if they are they would be 77 and 74 years old today. the last i heard they were both in poor health about 5 years ago. none of my family speaks to me at all since i announce my intention to go thru with my SRS.
2006-12-19 10:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by newmichelle1959 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st, isn't it funny how bigots show how ignorant they are when they can't even use the right derogatory terms? calling you a ******? LOL! only further proves their ignorance!
I didn't come out to my family until 2 1/2 years ago (I'm 43 now). I had been in a long relationship with someone who was a huge closet case and threatened to break up with me if I came out to them (that, among many other reasons, led to me finally breaking up with her). I'm now with someone who is out, open and honest. I had been out to friends and coworkers for a while. I called my mom and told her I wanted to get together and talk...she insisted I tell about what on the phone. she cried a little, but said she still loves me. she was only angry that I hadn't told her sooner. I only regret that I didn't get to tell my dad, who passed away nearly 16 years ago. my step dad seemed OK (but he is still a bit bigoted...OK with me and my partner, but doesn't believe we should be able to get married). my brother didn't seem the least bit bothered by it.
my mother and I still bicker sometimes about how we split up spending time with each others families at the holidays, otherwise it's totally fine.
2006-12-19 12:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad said he still loved me and that it was okay and he hugged me.
My mom wasn't so accepting. She instantly compared it to aids and said that she wished I wasn't gay, but that she'll just have to handle it. She also tried to guilt-trip me with the 'grandparents' thing. She's also incredible stereotypical with it and she thinks that all gay men are alike. My dad is MUCH more wise...
Now my mom might be clueless when it comes to homosexuality, but I still love her don't get me wrong. She's just uneducated and a bit ditzy. She never went to college, or had experiences with many different types of people.
2006-12-19 11:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fully expected to get disowned. I even moved across the country before I told them.
So what did I get? Disturbing phone calls and letters... A little too personal to go into great detail here, but it was bad...
Still, it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be... and after a few years, they mostly got over it.
I'm actually closer to my mom than I was before I came out.
2006-12-19 10:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by pixiest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom cried, she still fears for my sake b/c of the way I might be treated by the society. She is very accepting.
My dad is not so approving and has turned his blinders on to that issue, I guess he needs more time. But we act like we never had the "Talk."
My siblings are very accepting and nothing has changed there. My brother said that he had already suspected it.
2006-12-19 10:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sui Generis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came out to my parents on the phone (wasn't planned that way but it happened). My dad said he loved me and my mom's reaction was "yea, so?". Now, my husband is part of the family -- no questions at all. Total acceptance.
2006-12-19 10:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by barrych209 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my brothers is gay so he pretty much did the hard work :-)
My parents accept him. When I came out, my mom at first didn't want to believe it but then she grew to accept it. My dad is fine. All my parents want is me to be happy and thats all that matters to them.
My sister didn't know what to think at first but now she thinks its pretty cool..... and my oldest brother and his wife don't know. But I don't know, mom probably told them but we never said anything to each other yet lol
My friends were more like "I already knew that, was waiting for you to say something" hehe
2006-12-19 10:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by tashasw79 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surprisingly accepting. A little bit questioning, but I never had any major problems involving my sexuality with my immediate family.
2006-12-19 10:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shock
My mother went into therapy
my father went silent then sent a letter saying he didn't like it (i wrote back saying that it wasn't open for debate.)
my brothers and sisters each had their own weird reaction though one brother was relived I wasn'yt going to marry my former girlfriend that he hated.
but time has healed the rifts
2006-12-19 10:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by who da wha? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋