one of them still wants to be with him
2006-12-19 10:15:51 · 35 answers · asked by katalina2603 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO!!
2006-12-19 10:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by paige r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Who's got the ring? Thaaaaaat's right, YOU do, baby! Who gets half of everything? Thaaaaaaat's right, YOU do!
Even if that weren't the case, they're exs for a reason. Otherwise they'd be together right?
This will be especially true if they are still in the same social circle or workplace.
But....(big but, here) watch out for the one who wants him back. He shouldn't be spending alot of time with his exs. I mean, birthday greetings, Christmas cards, that sort of thing is totally cool, but if he's out with just her until wee hours of the morning every weekend? Calling several times a day? Always crying on his shoulder for hours quite frequently? More than just inappropiate!
If this is happening, put your foot down and remind him about the forsaking all others part of marriage. Your man is at fault, no matter how much you'd like to blame her (or wring her neck!) You might approach her and let her know she's intruding, but it's better if he does it. And NEVER EVER let her see you sweat! I mean it, OK?
The occasional phone call or e-mail to keep in touch, or she shows up at his relative's funeral to pay her respects? She's at social functions or invites you both to parties? Don't worry.
After all, who's got the ring? Who's got the big book of wedding photos? Who does he want around for keeps? Thaaaaat's right! YOU!!
(And not to freak you out or anything, but men are more likely to cheat with someone new aka mysterious, not go for sloppy seconds. Oh, man, I had to point it out even if it costs me 10 points!)
2006-12-19 10:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by mithril 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define "being friends". For some people, not hating each other and speaking on occasion (a couple of times a year) constitutes "being friends". If this is the case, it's perfectly ok - it simply testifies to the maturity of both parties involved. But if the "being friends" excuse is used to justify constantly keeping in contact with one's former lovers, it's just not cool.
2006-12-19 10:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not to the one who wants to be with him. and no to the other as well. this is the thing. it is inappropriate, whether or not he likes them doesn't matter. He should consider you and what everyone will think.
but I do think it is okay to say hi at the grocery store to them, or soemthing like that. he doesn't have to avoid them, but they should not ever call the house, or hang out alone. If they are in your circle of friends, then you all will have to get along a bit more, but otherwise, NO NO NO
2006-12-19 10:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not okay if it makes you feel uncomfortable. It has been my personal experience that usually when guys are still friendly with ex girlfriends that's how things getting started. There is too much familiarity there.
2006-12-19 10:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO! There is no such thing as a married man having female friends. Don't be a fool and tell him he either stops this game or your leaving him. How do you know maybe he's fooling around with them? Or giving them false hopes...uh huh honey! That is very disrespectful and he is just opening himself to temptation. Your husband is not a young stud thats single anymore....tell him to drop it or you'll drop his @ss.
2006-12-19 10:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if they still want to be with him. I believe that if he was honest and told you that they were still friends in the beginning when you were getting to know each other and you accepted it then, then you should accept it. But if the friend is trying to get him back, then no... he needs to break it off.
2006-12-19 10:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by mydds07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Even if your husband says he is not currently interested in either of them, too much time and conversations with them may change his mind.
2006-12-19 11:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a no. The only reason I could see is if they had a kid. That is the only reason I talk to my ex is because of our two sons.
2006-12-19 10:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by Needingsomeadvice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not alright to have ex's as friends especially if one of them wants to be with him!
2006-12-19 10:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That bothered me a lot when I was married, mainly because he did it behind my back. I told him it bothers me that he does it but if he talks to them at least tell me.
I would say if one still wanted to be with him I would suggest he not contact her and vice versa.
2006-12-19 10:38:22 · answer #11 · answered by carangel82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋