Will it ever happen for me? Seeing my period every month is getting frustrating. How can others get preg so effortlessly? My friends started trying a few months back and all of them got pregnant except me?!
I am on my second dose of Clomid already!
2006-12-19 10:13:23 · 14 answers · asked by nicsgirlus 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I've been in the same place you are now, and I remember all too clearly how...horrible...it was. In retrospect, I can see that I was basically in a borderline state of depression for a long, long time because of it. It's a terrible feeling, to want to be happy for your friends and find that you really can't, on some level, after a while...or that your excitement for them is tinged with comparative thoughts of "why me" and "what have I done to deserve this."
Because you're taking Clomid I know you're under the care of some doctor...but if it's your OB I would consult with an RE (and please, make sure you're getting monitored properly for Clomid...a lot of doctors don't really monitor with it and, admittedly, lack of adequate monitoring is a pet peeve of mine). I also assume you've had the "usual" testing, an SA for your husband or partner, and the usual bloodwork for you?
I don't know for how long you've been trying so I won't sit here from my comfortable chair and effortlessly say "oh, relax, it'll happen" -- nor will I tell you any of the usual BS (though well intended) things about stress, relaxation, "have more sex," or (one of my personal favorites), if you start the adoption process you'll get pregnant. But try to have faith that it will happen. This is your second Clomid cycle: so often, it takes a few cycles for Clomid to work. We've come to consider it some kind of miracle drug but if you look at the stats you'll see that it doesn't usually work on the first try, anyway. And there are other options, IF the Clomid doesn't work for you. I went through Clomid, injectibles, and eventually found myself doing IVF with PGD -- I never expected to end up in that position, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but eventually, with a lot of medical help, I became a mother. And in the process I met great women struggling with the same thing; some went on to adopt, some got pregnant using Clomid, some found themselves "naturally" pregnant while between medical treatments....and eventually, we got to where we wanted to be. It just took us longer than it takes some other people, that's all. (If you haven't been there already, I really recommend the website http://www.tcoyf.com -- the forums there are terrific, and the women and FAQs very helpful and supportive. It got me through some tough times!)
At the risk of sounding trite: you WILL be a mother one day, hopefully sooner rather than later...and when that day comes, I believe your cup will truly runneth over in a way that others just can't appreciate. I wish you all the best, and a happy, healthy pregnancy this cycle.
2006-12-19 11:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by ljb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I know exactly what you are going through right now because I have been going through the same thing for the past three or four months. I know this sounds crazy but your trying too hard. Just relax, and have fun with sex. Don't do it every night just to get pregnant. Do it for what it is. Stress can also play a factor in not conceiving. Try to focus on another goal. I know it's gonna be hard, but I tried it and I think I may be pregnant!! Good luck and best wishes!!!:)
2006-12-19 10:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by Me_Myself_&_I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if this will help or not. I didn't take any fertlity drugs but, I was going too. My husband and I tried for almost 9 months and finally all my friends kept telling me to STOP thinking about it during sex. I know it's hard but, just don't think about it. I didn't and well, I'm due in March. Believe me when you don't think about it.. for one, the sex is better and then when you see that positive test.. It's very exciting. I didn't watch what I did(eat or drink) My husband did though... so, I don't know. I hope the best for you! Good luck!!! oh yeah, After it's done.. Don't get up as soon as either of you are done. Just lay there.. try your left side for 10 mins. It's silly but, most of the time.. that WOULD work better then drugs.. So.. Anyways.. GOOD LUCK to you!
2006-12-19 11:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by tristan's mommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. The first posting I did on here was me frustrated because I wasn't getting pregnant and I was trying everything. Come to find out I was pregnant just didn't know it. The minute I gave up I found out. So don't worry!!! Stress is the worst thing for you right now. As frustrating as it is, it will happen! Just keep your head up and smile!! I know it's discouraging, and frustrating. Keep a positive attitude and you'll be a mommy before you know it!! Best of luck<3
2006-12-19 10:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~A~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there, done that. Change your focus. I decided that I wanted to loose weight and the minute i started to think about that rather than getting preg, it happened. The feeling of everyone getting preg around you is frustrating. I cried every time my period came. Also, if you believe in fate, you will get pregnant at the right time for you.
2006-12-19 10:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by heather m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try your best not to think about other people, try to focus on the good things you already have and be thankful. I know it is especially frustrating when people tell you NOT to stress, when at this moment in your life, having a baby is all you want. I have been waiting to get pregnant for 3 years. My husband has low sperm count.
I suggest you visit your doctor and have your husband visit his doctor too if you haven't already done so, surely its just about being patient. Also, pray a lot, God will answer your prayers if you pray a lot and with faith.
2006-12-19 12:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by MarianaBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have tried for 10 years and finally I got my son. hang in there it will happen. What happen is I finally gave up. Didn't worry about checking the calander and getting frustrated when my period came. When the time is right it will happen. My husband and I both went to see doctors and everything was fine it was just we were tring to hard. Don't stress yourself out. Good Luck
2006-12-19 11:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by undertowrottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand! I am on 4th dose of Clomid and 2nd IUI and still no baby...It is so hard to see that negative test each and every month and it's especially hard when your friends have babies and you want to be happy for them but you just wish you could be them. I wish you lots of baby dust..keep up hope, your time WILL come!!
HUGS
2006-12-19 10:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep having sex, you'll get there, don't make it like a chore though, make it new, fun, exciting. Good luck x
2006-12-19 10:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to a doctor and find out when ur fertile
2006-12-19 10:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by starbluewolf2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋