im not strong enough to take the steps i need to to take break up wiht my boyfriend... he is much older than i am, he is not for me. i dont know how to walk away... my sister says to do it slowly but i cant even do that... what do i do for support or help?
2006-12-19 10:05:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
If you are not strong enough, then you are not mature enough to be in a relationship...period. Ahh yes, but everyone in a relationship will say I am mature enough. If so, then prove so and take the responsibility of confronting and resolving the hard issues life will bring. It's all about honesty. You sit him down and explain how you feel and tell him it's not going to work. Then move on.
2006-12-19 10:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may be in a abusive and or a controlling relationship. I was with my ex hubby for 13 yrs. I woke up one day and said i am sick and tired of being sick and tired of the bs so I told my ex to move out. and I got the house and the dogs. However, you may need to go to a shelter or move in with a sister, friend family member. I actually changed my name to my moms maiden name so my ex couldnt find me again. I would go and get a job. everyday search and interview till u get something. I know its not easy and may be scarey. MY ex made almost 6 digit income and i walked out making only $25,000 a yr that was scarey. I did it i sold the other house and I bought another bigger better one lol. You owe it to your self to be happy. If your what u say not strong enough to leave then perhaps you need to be miserable for awhile longer. however, it doesnt get easier the longer u stay it only gets worst. Today i have myself back. my dignity, integrity, im happy healthier, i laugh and smile. if i can get away from a drinking abusive control hubby you can too. good luck i wish u the best. hugs
2006-12-19 18:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you pull off a band-aid slowly; then why would you do this slowly. If he's not good for you, life is too short and you should move on. If he is older, he should have learned the life skills to handle disappointment. When it comes to boyfriend- girlfriend relationships, self preservation is key. You only pledge that type of undying love to a person that bothers to marry you; and thats only after trust has been established.
2006-12-19 18:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by act as if 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy. Find out who you are and what you want.
Step 1. Do you.
Step 2. When you want to call him call a girlfriend.
Step 3. Enrich your life with what interest you.
Its not easy. But it can be done if you keep the focus on
you. You can do it. It beats being unhappy...
Best for him too.
2006-12-19 18:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by jane m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he abusive? If so, contact your local domestic violence center and ask for help.
If he isn't, then the best thing to do is just tell him and get out or get him out.
You can't break up with someone slowly. You just have to make up your mind and do it.
2006-12-19 18:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you live together just leave when he aint there and dont answer the phone at all. or even better just say to him i dont think we are suited anymore and i just want to be friends. and dont give in to him.
2006-12-19 18:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by been there done that 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 13 and i went out with a 16 year old, i broke up with him today, well i just asked me friend to do i for me and thats it i coulnt go up to him i was too scared!
2006-12-19 19:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do it fast, and don't look back! no need to lead him on
2006-12-19 18:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋