Ok a few years back I had the best guy friend I ever had but he started to be emotionally abusive so I cut him off when I went on to college. I haven't really thought of him since but occasionally or out of the blue he'd show up in my dreams, we'd either be making out, or greeting and hugging
Well the last few weeks in the last month he's been in my dreams at least three times. Most of it was about seeing him again and me apologizing, we make up and hug each other and hang out.
Sure I'd like to see him again but I don't think about him all the time or rarely. And when I do have a dream about him I wasn't thinking about him in my waking life.
So what would this mean?
2006-12-19 09:52:58 · 10 answers · asked by Snorty 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I believe you may have the desire to recapture some of the intimacy (by that I mean very close kinship and not necessarily sex, which is the usual perception of 'intimacy' in North America) that you had with this friend. We live in a miserable old world, for the most part, and we get so busy with 'stuff' (including the internet) that we often find ourselves lacking the rich warmth and closeness of our youthful relationships. Those were times when we were discovering, along with our friends, what it meant to have viewpoints separate from our parents', to flex our sexuality muscles, to discover God and a community that felt right for us. This is heady, exciting, person-forming stuff.... the people we share it with... our peers... become important in our lives by default. When we separate from them we lose not only the negative stuff (by the way, I think you did the right thing to end an emotionally-abusive relationship) but we also lose all the "good" interactions that have grown up with the friendship.
Does this make sense?
If so, you might want to think what the interests were that drew the two of you together, and to pursue those interests with the goal of making some new friends. Just a suggestion!
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2006-12-19 10:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a couple of reasons.
It was an intense friendship, with unresolved issues you wish you could address. It sounds as though you may have some guilt regarding ending the relationship when it began to be difficult.
It also appears there is some sexual tension with him. Your sub-conscious could be picking up the fact that he was trying to control you with this 'emotion abuse', meaning he cared a lot about you and wanted to 'keep you', but was insecure so that was his way of trying to control you and not let you outgrow him, get it?
The leads to the connotion that he in fact may have been more attracted to you then just being your friend and didn't express it. That is flattering to you and hence you are sub-consciously attracted to it...
Perhaps you also miss the excitement of the abuse (it sounds strange but intense/abusive relationships are so suspenseful and action-packed, it makes normal relationships appear boring if you are not really tuned in to what is going on in your head and heart).
2006-12-19 16:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could have nothing to do with him at all. You might want closer to something & have put his face to it in your dreams. Or it could be as simple as you want closer from him. He apologizes in your dream. The way he treated you is still eating at you subconciously & you wish he cared enough to apologize, because you deserve it. But unfortunately we ussually don't get the apologies we deserve. Maybe there is someone you need to apologize to...
2006-12-19 10:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by shouldbworkn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would think real hard and try to remember da good things about him like wat was the past like was it a good relationship but then n again if hes abuissive then try to find smeone better then him its goin 2 b hard but b more stronger write me back ok
2006-12-19 10:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by Dakota W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your not happy with your life now and you wish you could go back.
2006-12-19 09:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so now do you like him since you are dating him in your dreams? find out where he is at.
2006-12-19 09:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
" apologizing, we make up and hug each other and hang out"
apologize to him and make up.
2006-12-19 14:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to know how he is and want to see him again
2006-12-19 09:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's dreaming of you too....
2006-12-19 09:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're just missing him.
2006-12-19 09:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by cartman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋