Gay? Erectile Disorder, Inhibited Sexual Desire (ISD), or cheating? Can anyone really specify what ED symptoms are? as well as ISD, etc. We've been married 6 years, we started off strong, and then we were making love 2-3 times a month, after about 4years I was lucky if we made love every few months. We have a 5 month old son now. I was shocked to find out we were pregnant. Needless to say we didn't make love while I was pregnant either. So it's been a YEAR now. He's always been lukewarm, but now it's worse. I was always on Fire, but now I'm lukewarm which is normal since I just had a baby 5 months ago, . Important to know: I speak with him often, were like best friends, but this topic is Taboo with him, He says the more I talk about it, the worse I make things for him. He seems to think that our sex life is normal.
2006-12-19 09:52:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry I forgot to add we've made love once in Oct. that was 2 months ago, Once in a year's time.
2006-12-19 09:53:44 · update #1
Talking about it makes things worse for him? What about you? You deserve a good, healthy sex life. Get him to counseling to see whatt his problem is. Whatever you do, don't blame yourself for his problem. To me, he at least owes you the effort of trying to fix what's wrong. If not, you should not be in a relationship where you are not satisfied.
2006-12-19 10:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that his desire has always been lower than yours, or it could be that he has lost interest now that he sees you as a mother instead of a wife. He should get a physical first to make sure that nothing's wrong, like a low testosterone level. Then you should get counseling together and if he won't go, go by yourself.
ED symptoms are that he has difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection more than 25% of the time, so it sounds more like low desire to me.
2006-12-19 10:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um. Wow. I suggest trying to talk to him again. If he refuses to talk about then suggest talking to a marriage counselor together. Marriage isn't all about sex but sex is an important part of marriage and intimacy.
I think talking to a doctor or therapist would be a really good idea for the two of you. It can improve your communication and hopefully your sex life. I wish you luck! Oh, and congratulations on your new baby! :)
2006-12-19 09:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a severe problem. Severe. Whether it's physical or emotional, I have no way of telling. But there is something significantly wrong with him. And it's progressing. Without intervention it will continue to get worse, not better. Period.
Get him to a doctor, or counselling, or whatever; or suffer from a celibate marriage with a guy who has a severe problem he refuses to deal with.
2006-12-19 10:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to see a family counselor. There should be no subject that a married couple can't talk about. Call someone right away that has extensive experience in marriage counseling.
2006-12-19 09:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
altho' sexual intimacy is very important in married life especially young married life like yours, communications to each other is more than important but very, very important... you have to discuss this very, very seriously and if he insist on ignoring it you should ask some help from professionals to solve the situations don't try to solve this just by the two of you if one is hesitant to discuss the problem, a third person who is not biased and a professional can help!
2006-12-19 09:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my husband. I can't figure out why he doesn't want to have sex. He claims he is very attracted to me, we have good sex whenever it does happen, but his libido is null. and mine is active...so yeah...I would like to know too. and what do we do? Do you get a divorce? He is nearly perfect in every other way, and we are best friends. We have been married for seven years...at what point is enough ENOUGH??
2006-12-19 09:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal...and he needs to understand how important this is to you...speak to him again and if he says that makes it worse, find out why...tell him the two of you need to seek counseling if he won't talk to you perhaps he'll talk to a therapist...he's hiding something and perhaps you should make it clear to him that whatever he's hiding is doing damage to your relationship...
2006-12-19 09:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL , your husband's like my wife. wanna trade hehe j/k, But seriously you need to get this worked out , if you dont, it will never get better and you will be left feeling like there is something wrong with you....
Some men are just cold, a friend of mine is that way and I cant understand it , his wife is in the same situation you are in.
I'm still trying to find out whats wrong with my wife.
2006-12-19 11:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a satisfying marriage. Get thee to a counselor together and let him know that no subject that effects your marriage can be off limits.
If he has a medical condition it can be corrected but only if he wants to. If he doesn't this marriage should be history.
2006-12-19 10:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋