As far as a length of time goes, what do you think is a good amount of time before asking someone to marry you. Not to actually go through the marriage process, but just to make the engagement commitment?
2006-12-19 09:49:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've lived together for 6 months now, probably longer. We've been together for a year and a half. Very serious relationship. Every time i even joke around about being engaged he rolls his eyes and barely talks to me until i find something new to talk about. When i asked him a few months ago, all he said was he wasn't mature enough for a commitment like that (he's 23). And i feel if he is mature enough to intimately make a commitment to me, then why not mature enough to be engaged? I'm not rushing him, i just don't understand his definition of commitment.
2006-12-19 10:02:06 · update #1
It depends on so many things..
For example -
How old are you and your boyfriend?
Have either of you been married before?
Speaking from experience, the first time you get engaged, I would wait at least a year, and then wait another year or two before having the wedding! Make sure you know everything there is to know about each other during that time and that this is really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with!
If you've both been married before and have kids already, then usually you know exactly what you want (because you learned what you DIDN'T want from the first marriage) and a shorter relationship before engagement and/or marriage is okay.
It all boils down to you and your boyfriend knowing to your core that this is the one for you. If there's any doubt, wait. If you're sure and you've given it time and still feel that way? Go for it.
Good luck!
2006-12-19 09:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by rtlsimpson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 year
2006-12-19 09:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say 2 years of dating one on one no one else. Then 6 months to a year engagement. But that's just a good rule of thumb.
After 2 years, if you don't know where you want to be with this person, then it's time to move on.
2006-12-19 09:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion and from experience--over 2 years. Anything before that you both are still in the honeymoon stage, a bad representation of a marriage. Marriage isn't perfect all the time. Also, once the couple learns to communicate and trust, they can only grow from each other.
Also, it's important to remain indepedent. It's not healthy to be codepedent in a marriage.
2006-12-19 09:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does depend on your age a bit, but generally you should date for a minimum of 2 years (no shacking up together) An engagement of up to one year (no more) during that time no shacking up and there must be a ring and a date set with deposits made on the facilities.
2006-12-19 09:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife asked me to marry her after we were going out for 4 months. (Sadie Hawkins day, 1984)
Of course, the official engagement didn't start for another 2 years, but we both realized very early on that a "life sentence" was what we wanted - and that was 23 years ago.
2006-12-19 09:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there is no amount of time for somebody to decide when to marry or propose too, its what you feel and how mature your feelings towards the other person is, a real, true, honest, respectful, giving, and faithful feeling of love don't put any amount of time for anything its just there and develops into more of what you feel in the first time you meet the person you want to spend you life with!
2006-12-19 09:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is instant. Sometimes it takes a while. The right amount of time is for you both to decide. Its always a good idea to live together for a year first.
2006-12-19 09:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least 2 years.
2006-12-19 09:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by amandafofanda66 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the length of time it's if you think you know this person well enough to want to spend the rest of your life with them and think about waking up every morning and seeing this person next to you for the rest of your life.
2006-12-19 09:54:35 · answer #10 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋