I was having sex with my man and he just went soft on me in the middle. Does this mean I don't turn him on?

Question

We used to have an amaazing sex life. I'm scared hes getting bored or something because he has erectile problems more often....he is only 25 yrs old.

Answer 1

It could be a ton of different reasons that have nothing to do with you. He could have been tired, he could be on medication, he could have thought about his mother, he could have drunk too much.......the list goes on.

But here's the question: Did you make a big deal of it when it first happened? Because if you did, he's probably just paranoid as hell at this point. It's called performance anxiety.

If this isn't the case, I suggest you discuss it with him in a very non-confrontational and supportive way. It will either be mental or physical. If it's mental, you will have to support him and calling him "limp dick" is not the method I'd suggest. If it's physical, he should see his doctor.

As for him getting bored...... Guys seem to be able to get it up for women they aren't the least bit interested in dating. I don't think this is a symptom you really have to worry about for this particular problem. When he starts staying out all night or forgetting about dates with you..... then start worrying.

Answer 2

He needs to see a male health doctor and find out what his problem is. You may be turning him off without you knowing it, but more likely he is developing a physical problem. There are cures for that.

The male erection system is a complicated system, not like a woman. A woman can "fake" it but a man cannot. The tale tale signs will show up every time. It may be a mental problem, but start with:

Talk with him and get "his" side of the story. If he says nothing is wrong, that he knows, then it is time to see a good doctor that will try to find the problem.

It could be worry, distracted or any of many things.

For a quick solution, there are rubber rings that he can put around the base of his penis to help hold the blood in the penis during sex. In other words, it won't go soft. However, try to find the REAL reason it is "flopping". Good luck. pops

Answer 3

It could mean a lot of things, but you not turning him on is not one of them.

It may have happened once because he was tired, and now he's preoccupied with it happening again, so guess what? It happens again.

Someone mentioned allergy medications, and that's also correct. Some medications can cause "performance" problems.

There are also physiological problems that can cause this, but at 25, it's highly unlikely that's what is going on.

It also could be stress related. Maybe there are issues at school, work, or at home that he's dealing with.

Sara, who chose to add her "wisdom" is an idiot who needs attention, and the best thing to do is the exact opposite of her solution. Show some compassion, understanding, and you will get back to where you used to be!

Answer 4

going soft in the middle is quite natural, nothing to worry about.
ur husband is only 25 years old. erectile function disorder in this age is mostly due to psychological origin.

there r a lots of drugs on the market for male eractile function disorder...these drug r cent per cent effective....they consists of Sildenafil citrate which induce erections in response to sexual stimulation by causing smooth muscle relaxation in the corpus cavernosum through selective inhibition of phosphodiesterase type 5 (PDE5)

but ur husband need not use those drugs at this age. try finding some reading stuff on "seasoning" a man. i.e. Dressing differently or being urself someone else sometimes works wonders in seasoning a man.

It's said that life startes at 40,.... most couples learns how to play sex perfectly after forty.... ur husband is still too young.nothing to worry about....... let some days pass by then he will pick up again...

Answer 5

No this does not mean he is not turned on.....I'm sure this is upsetting him a lot more than you...It sounds like he does need to go see a Urologist, who is the kind of doctor that treats this....Is he under a lot of stress, drink a lot, have high blood pressure and take meds. for it, doing drugs, sick, or unhealthy in any way? All of these can cause erectile dysfunction......Have him make an appointment with a man, which will be easier for him to talk to. Tell him this is a common problem, even with young men...It's nothing to be embarrassed about, but it is something that needs to be taken care of so the two of you can have a healthy sexual life....Hope this helps....................

Answer 6

believe it or not it can happen to the young as well
does he drink does he have health problems asthma,high blood pressure are very common causes and something as simple as not getting enough exercise will do it !oh!yeah sleep to
and if you still think that it might be plain old boredom than try a few different things instead there is a Lot out there for sex play
so go with your partner and explore!

Answer 7

It might and could be a psychological problem. If it's moderate, try talking to him, asking him if anything's wrong. It's its severe and you think can lead to depression, definately take him to a psychologist.

Plus, when the moment's right, a little foreplay can help and a little role play to. Go and explore...thats the best way to get answers.

Answer 8

He should go to a doctor,it's not normal at his age to have that problem.I know that happens in the mid 40's.But anyway talk to him,maybe he's stressed at work or it can be something else,communication is good,you can try sex toys to light up the fire between you two or watch porno movies,there's lots of stuff that can help you,good luck.

Answer 9

It means that he got off and didn't feel like taking care of you.

Answer 10

Talk to him about it. It really helps. Maybe try some new things if you think he is bored with the normal. It may help things, and will definitly benefit both of you :)