Im in love with a Married man???????????????

Question

Im was dating a married man for 4 months- then one day his wife called me......at home<<< He had already even moved out into his own apartment and everything>>>setting up a possiblity for being with me.
I didnt know a GD thing. But after 4 drunken days...he's professedd his undying love to me via phone messages.
I told him i loved him too.
What should i do? they have 2 small kids together?????
She even lied to him and said she was prego..then said she just
miscarried........
If i knew i would not have gone there. But this love seems so deep.
has anybody out there ever experienced this???
HELP

Answer 1

Walk away from the relationship until and unless he chooses to sever the relationship with his wife.

Don't see him, call him, check up on him. If he is really willing to break up his family, let him get that horror behind him before you start spending time together again.

This will hurt but not as much as spending years of your life being the other woman and not getting all that someone has in his heart.

Remember, she will always be a part of his life and so will his children. They will ultimately see you as the reason that their daddy left. Can you handle all that?

This is not to chastise you. Just to get you to clarify what you would get into if you stayed with him.

Answer 2

I would say that you should end this relationship for many reasons. First of all it is a sin to have a romantic or sexual relationship with a married man. Well if he truly loved and cared about you he would have told you that he was married as soon as you enter an official relationship. Even though he has moved out that doesn't mean that there relationship is completely over. Obviously the woman still has feelings for him if she is calling you and if she lied about a pregnancy. And plus they have children this can really ruin the children's lives especially if they are young. There are many more reasons here are just a few. Try putting yourself in his wife shoes it might help you find the answer you are looking for. The choice is yours. Don't let anyone make you do anything you don't want to do. If you do believe in God my advice to you is to pray, read the bible (Proverbs is one book that can help you in this situation), and talk to someone you can really trust. I hope I have helped.

Answer 3

Even though he tells you that he loves you at the end of the day 1. He's still a married man and 2. He has two kids. Do you want to deal with this drama? Is it worth all this trouble? He disrespected his own wife and kids, what makes you think he will respect you when it comes to your relationship? ...he won't. He's not even divorced for crying sakes...he's only seperated. How do you know he might turn around and get back with his wife. Men do this all the time...he doesn't know what he wants. Yeah he might say he wants you but he doesn't have much credibility does he. Look if he wants to be with you, you have to do things right. Tell him to figure out his life and if he wants to be with you he's going to have to get a divorce...not just a move in. Respect yourself don't lower your standards and be called out as a homewrecker. I hope you make the right choice...

Answer 4

No matter what anyone says you will do as you do and believe what you believe. If he cheats on his wife with you he will cheat on you with someone else. If his wife can't trust him no one can. .Lies,lies and more lies are in your future.If you hang around you'll be hurt and lose all your self respect. If you have ever been cheated on and know how badly that hurts think about the hurt his wife feels,knowing he's doing that.How can you do that to another person? If it is true love between you he should step up and be a man and take care of his unfinished business first before building a relationship with you.Look in the mirror and if you can honestly tell yourself you are not worth a partner who respects you then carry on sister. How did his wife get the cell phone? Stop this and realize he is playing you.

Answer 5

Woman on the Side
You need the question ire department, this is what needs to be asked, you decide who answers them you or him;
Is he at home?
Do he visit you anytime of day or nite?
Have you meet his children?
Does he still wear his wedding ring?
Are their ex cusses for missing or away any period of time?
Can you call him?
Can he take you places ( dinner, church, family visits)?
Can you go to his home?
Do you need more? It's not about what the wife said to him, it's what are you doing with him. If he lives alone O.K. ask him to spend the weekend and make plans to go in the public. If he gives anything other than work, show him the door. ( If he has to work choice the days he is off ). Last! watch the times he contact you and leaves, if they are around the same time every-day or week. Find a way for it to go wrong. If he is serious about leaving? You be 2

Answer 6

OK first, messing with a married man or woman is just wrong. Can't you find a single guy out there? Second, do you really want somebody you know is willing to cheat on his spouse and you might become that spouse? And last 4 months is not enough time to know that you love some one it sounds more like lust and that you probably like the excitement factor in getting caught. Think about it, if it were just you two and none of the other stuff, you two just started dating as a single man and single woman, is this the person you want to be with?

Answer 7

I had a friend go thru that just a couple of years ago. STAY AWAY FROM HIM!!!!! He is not worth it. If he will cheat on his wife, someone he professed his undying love to and made vows with, what's going to stop him from cheating on you?????
Something that I have learned is that there truely are 2 sides to each story. People (in relationships) will dramatize conversations, arguments, etc, when the other one is not around. You can maybe believe them about half the time.
If he says that he is going to leave her, don't believe him. They have kids together, as long as he wants to see his kids, the wife will always be around. Do you really want to be the one that took daddy away from mommy?
Just cut the cord. Stop communicating with him, the sooner you stop talking to him, the sooner you can get on with your life.

Answer 8

If he can leave his wife, the mother of this children, and, his children, then go on a 4 day drunk to profess his undying love to you makes this guy sound like a loser. If you go with this guy be prepared for a big let down later on. Chances are greater he will do the same to you if a pretty little thing catches his eye.

Answer 9

The man usually makes the first move. Even if she’s interested in you, the most she’s likely to do is to stand near you or make eye contact a couple times to encourage you to approach her. Read here https://tr.im/cIots

Once you see her, don’t hesitate. 10 minutes from now she might not be there or another guy might have beaten you to the punch. Plus, women can tell when you’re working up the courage to approach. Shyness might be endearing in movies and romance novels, but it doesn’t work in the real world. Approach right away, even if you don’t know what you’re going to say

Answer 10

Marriage is a sacred union.
Since you say you didnt know you cant be blamed
But now you DO KNOW...
Put yourself in his wife's shoes and think about it or a good long while.
Pray for the strength to leave him
Cut all contact with him

Find someone who's free to love you the way you should be loved

Also remember that HE WASNT HONEST WITH YOU.

Thats not a good start to a relationship

And he's been unfaithful to his wife BEHIND her back

you could be next.

She can be forgiven for saying she was pregnant - she's fighting for herself and her kids.