i've been seeing a co-worker for about two months and after being together one night I got pregnant. He is ok with me keepin it...but we're not a couple. I talk to him everyday and sometimes we hang out, but how can I have a baby by someone that I'm not really with. though I do like him very much... I think it would be awkward since I also just ended a 4 year relationship.
would it be awfully wrong to go on with it?
2006-12-19 09:30:04 · 22 answers · asked by BELLA 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't listen to all of the bull that people are submitting in their answers. Some females get pregnant by anybody and don't even know who the father is. Just take care of your baby and be happy that you have someone who is willing to help you and has no problem with you keeping it. Move on with your life and don't feel guilty about what you've done. You all will be fine. Is this your first child? You also don't have to be in a relationship to raise a child either so it doesn't matter about you and him not be committed.
2006-12-19 10:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Foreveryoung 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well now that you are a mother you have to start thinking about what is best for both you AND your child. Hopefully the father will want to be a part of the childs life, and in that way a part of yours, even if the two of you are not together. You should file for child support though, once the child is born.
This is coming from a single dad. It is hard and you need to sacrifice a LOT but in the end having that child at the end of the day makes it all worth it.
2006-12-19 09:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you solve world peace? I'm not trying to be stupid, but it's a really tough question. There's a lot to consider. The fact that you are working together, finances, his involvement with the child (whether the two of you are a couple or not), child support, etc. How stable are you financially to have this baby? If you keep it (and you should, I don't believe in abortion), you need to set the record straight with him and first discuss how he is going to support this pregnancy and baby financially as it is his legal (for baby) obligation. He can either support your baby financially by paying babysitting (don't be cheap if he does) or daycare, insurance, prescriptions, formula and living expenses....or you can hit him for child support (which can eat up half of his check). I'm not trying to be spiteful of him, I am just giving you a list of things to consider, or demands if you'd like to call it, for the well-being of this baby. And if it works out and the two of you end up together, great!! Best of luck. I am sure that whatever his involvement, he won't be able to resist the baby. You're a strong woman and whatever you decide will work out.
2006-12-19 09:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people are single mothers, alot even do it by choice. Times may be hard but you can always get through whatever happens. The children come out completly normal and happy.
You say he is ok with your keepin it. It's not up to him its up to you. He can not say you are not allowed to have this baby!
Please I beg of you not to have an abortion. If you do not want the baby at least go to term and give them up for adoption. There are thousands of amazing families who want children and can not have them for whatever reason. You could even pick who you wanted to parent your baby if you wanted to. At least that way, as well as if you where to be a single mother, the baby would have a life and not just be killed and punished becuase you may or may not be ready.
2006-12-19 09:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by J. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 12:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my first child when I was single too. You might think it is the end of the world now but when the baby comes you will realize that it is one of the biggest blessings you will ever recieve. Motherhood is one of the toughest jobs out there but when it comes you will realize thatit is the most rewarding. Don't give up on this pregnancy just because of the circumstances of conception. Everything happens for a reason.
2006-12-19 09:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by Summer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since your colleague is acceptable to the idea of keeping the child, have you considered marriage? Relationship is developed and not born on day-one. Since you've beeing hanging out with this colleague for two months, you must have like him. Go, work on the relationship, make it works.
2006-12-19 09:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, of course it wouldnt, this is your baby! Do what you feel is right and ask this 'co-worker' of yours, does he want to be apart of this babys life? He is ok with you keeping the baby, but does he want to know the baby. either way huni, its your choice, no one would think bad of you because of this, you had a little fun and got caught x
Good luck, and congratulations x
2006-12-19 09:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
the q is do u want to keep the baby??? and ask him if he is willing to help out with the baby when it comes?? what is ur feelings about it?? and i don't think it wrong to go with it, that if he is willing to help out and be there for u, even though u guys are not going out.
2006-12-19 09:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by chatt_girl200200 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give the babys life a chance. It didnt makes an "oops" you did.
I know how hard it is to make that decision, trust me.
2006-12-19 09:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Emily H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋