I'm 52 she's 45, both don't know how to date,both want to go slow at this.The old fashion way both no hurt ???

Question

Would like her to understand,that I just do care and don't want either of us, to break the others heart,,so to do this the old fashion way and it's has been some time for the both of us don't know how to date. I'm a school bus driver in one town and she is a police woman in a different town,,how do does one date,the "old fashion" like when we were young?

Answer 1

Hey, someone I can relate to! I'm 46 and my boyfriend is 52. We had been friends years before, and got together as 'more' than friends when he moved back to town a year or so ago.

My son is in high school and still living at home.
His two girls are grown (24 & 26) and he has 3 grandsons - 6, 3 and 5 months. He 'shares' his grandkids with me, and his daughters are great.

Most of our initial 'dates' were simply doing the same things we would have done on our own - but we did them together. We've both tried some 'new' things!

He introduced me to car racing and 'trailer races' - I took him to pet shows and scouting events with my son. We both like history,antiques (though we can't afford them!) flea markets, garage sales and fairs. We both love animals, and he often takes my dog for a walk or car ride when I can't. ( the cats- his or mine -don't appreciate rides and walks!)

I am a life-long canoe camper, I talked him into trying a kyak at the beach, and the the first thing he did was roll it in 4 ft of water! He went winter camping (in a tent!) for the first time in his life with us. He's teaching me to drive stick shift in his '69 Chevelle, and to change my own oil.

My son and I are both big do-it-yourselfers, and like woodworking. When his condo had water damage from a neighbors broken water heater, I helped him drywall, paint and repair. Since he loves cars, he is teaching me about motors and helps maintain my car. We build stuff together in my garage workshop. I taught his adult daughter how to sew baby quilts for her first baby - using her aunt's antique treadle machine.

We just do all the things that we would find fun and entertaining on our own - but they are much more fun with someone else!

Answer 2

Somehow adults forget how to be silly and spontaneous. My husband and I realized this awhile back. We became determined to put old fashioned fun back into our life, date like we used too.
A couple really fun things we came up with; We went to the carnival and went down that big slide on a sack. We giggled and laughed and went for a second go at it. Ached a bit the next day but it was worth it. Another idea, we go to our favorite cocktail lounge and order a really fancy ice cream drink with two straws, we visit and people watch while we share the tasty treat. Be creative and take it slow, give yourselves time to learn all about each other. Old fashion romance is the only way to go!

Peace :)

Answer 3

well how sweet!!! First just plan some evenings out. Go to dinner, or even simply take a walk in the park together. Hold hands, laugh, and have fun. She will enjoy the way you can mix romance with a little bit of old fashioned fun. Good luck!

Answer 4

I am effectively caught within the center of the 2 extremes. I attempt to keep up on present models and fads, in each and every element from apparel to hair and type statements or even how I raised my son. I raised him with the conventional habits of keeping doorways for the women and aged, and announcing ma'am and sir ("Yes, ma'am." "Thank you, sir.") and utilizing manners. But I permit him be his possess character while it got here to garments and hair. (Even if it was once frequently painful to appear at.) Now that he's 22, he's blank reduce and clothes quite decently ample that I am no longer mortified at going out to dinner - in public - with him!

Answer 5

dude!!!u are sooooo overthinking this !!!! ask"wanna see "whatever" movie friday night,then grab so pizza?" or'wanna go to tha art gallery"or horsebackriding,or,ask her to take u to the shooting range,she could give u a lesson,and she would be glad to show u something about her job!go to williams-sonoma at the mall,and take her to a valentines day cooking class.jump in,have fun!!u dont have to declare undying love,keep it light,get to know her,put off the physical stuff for a few months,its too intense and one/both of u will get scared,and one or both will get hurt.look in the paper for "events"-plays,movies,concetrts,openings,any kind of fun weekendy stuff.go to cool ethnic restaurants.cook her ur favorite meal.walk ur dogs in the park together.go to the lovcal bookstore coffeeshop on jazz nite and have a latte.if ur both sporty types,go to a game or ride bikesor whatever,together.good luck.its gr8 advice.we did fun stuff together and eventually got married,but were "friends first."just forget pressure,dont worry "where is this going?",dont over-think.just get out and have fun,like when u were a teen.it will all come back to u !!!good luck!!!!

Answer 6

I agree go out on dates, talk on the phone, enjoy each others company and no dates after midnight. Also no overnight dates. Now that's truly the old fashion way.

Answer 7

WoW. There are not too people out there like this. I really commend you both. Why don't you attend church and church functions together? Be with people that have the same moral values that you two have. Go to movies, dinners, picnics. Do the things that you would like to do together and I wish you so much luck in this relationship. It is so good to hear about people like you. Good luck. Merry Christmas

Answer 8

I am close to your lady's age. I have not being in the dating scene for ages. Taking it easy is always good policy. Sharing together as much as time your schedule allows. Enjoying it and don't stress too much about it. Everything should flow naturally. Enjoy the holidays.

Answer 9

The 2 of you are kinda "long in the tooth" to be taking it slow. You might be 6 feet under before you good to the good stuff !!!

Answer 10

Ask her to do things with you. Movie, dinner, watch TV, go to a game, etc.