Ok, so we are two guys who loved each other like crazy for three years. He and I both had girlfriends before we met and for some strange reason, got attracted to each other, ended the relationships with our women and moved in together. After three long years, he realized that he needs to be with a woman, coz although we loved each other, there was no future to our relationship coz of acceptance in the society. I let him start seeing someone, as long as he loved me. But he couldnt sail in both the boats, so had to end it with me. He moved out of my home, quite bitter coz of an argument we had, and seeing that girl now. We met recently, spoke about it, he came home, cried, said he loves me, but had to do this to me, so we could move on. I hurt like crazy for a month wanting him back. Now, we speak to each other on the phone once in 2-3 days but its not like before. I still want some love from him, till I find someone. He says he cant. Should I be friends with him to help me overcome him?
2006-12-19 09:15:21 · 8 answers · asked by Fast C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
staying friends with someone always helps me get over them...it depends on the kind of person you are...I don't have much need for attention so I can be friends with someone I have loved...
2006-12-19 09:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by Gordita de Oro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you want love from him till you find somoene else. Would you have been accepting if it were the other way aroud with you being in a new relationship and he wanting love from you till he found someone?
I suggest you contact him preferably by phone once every 10 - 14 days just for a chat for abt 15 mins.
Within those 10-14 days you should try to meet someone - a woman, hang out with old friends, family, start a new hobby ( take a class in some craft).
After sometime those calls will have longer intervals bewteen them and hopefully you'll have found someone else
All the best
2006-12-19 09:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by Classique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Trust me, i've been throught this, buut I dunno exactly what you feel about the acceptation of society. Beeing friend with aperson you love is crazy, imposible and it hurst. Most important in forgetting him is to get out with friends, go to disco 9don't get drunk, it'll be worser) and try some short relationships and then longer once you are prepared. Also stop thinking of him! I know, it's very hard, but try to don't call him, to pretend he is dead. Then he could break up any contact with you or to come back to you. Also if you can be happy with a girl, giving her the love she needs, then FORGET HIM and just go in searching for girls. Then after a while, after beeing with more girls, once you really lov one you can call him, tell him you have someone and want to friends with him. And don't forget: time closes the wounds.
2006-12-19 09:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by asking_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect his decision no matter how hurtful it is to you and you also need to start doing whatever it is you have to to move on. If you can't find someone else because you can't get him out of your head than you should try not to talk to or see him until you have moved on. There is no way you'll be able to find someone else you'd be in love with if you still do things with him. And it's not fair to him because he will just end up feeling stronger for you and betraying whatever goals he's set for himself, no matter how unrealistic. Tell him you want to be his friend but you have to move on too. Tell him it's not goodbye and if he needs a friend or something comes up than to call you but in the mean time you need your space to move on too. Don't cut him off just limit yourself.
2006-12-19 09:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, its much harder to be friends with someone when your trying to get over the relationship you both shared. I would lay low for awhile and take sometime for yourself to try to get over him. Trust me it will only hurt if you keep in contact especially if the breakup is fresh. I went through that with my ex..we tried to be friends afterwards and talk to each other about the people we were trying to date and it was just hurtful.
2006-12-19 09:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being friends with him won't help you get over him, it'll do the opposite. the best thing you can do is make a clean break. sorry.
2006-12-19 09:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not seeing him will help u get ova him quicker
2006-12-19 09:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure
2006-12-19 09:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋