I have been with a guy for about 5 years we have a little one and i heard that he is unhappy with me I confronted him about it but he says he is happy and nothing is wrong and plus he has been kind of acting off standish towards me. Should I keep at it or should i just leave it alone
2006-12-19 09:09:49 · 13 answers · asked by whoohoo2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
some people are asking how much i way Im fat but i just had the baby 3mnths ago and I have let myself go because well its a newborn. But i m eating right and exercising to try to loose the weight and I think maybe that is part of it I look gross
2006-12-19 09:23:58 · update #1
In your mind you know somwthing is bothering him but u cant really force him into talking ya know? That doesnt mean he cant hear you when you talk! Tell him how u feel and let him know its botjering you and let him know that no matter what it is he can talk to you. That u r always there for him no matter what. He may just be afraid of starting a fight over something really silly and it may just be something he has to work thru on his own. Men r funny about always sharing therir feelings especially with us ya know? Just let him know u love him and u feel like u r kinda drifting apart and its bothering you and u r there for him totally! Merry Christmas and good luck to u
2006-12-19 09:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a bit unfair !! A lot of guys tell the truth.There are also a lot of girls who lie. Who told you that he is unhappy ?? Are you sure you can trust this person. Perhaps he just had a bad day and made a stupid remark to someone and it's been blown out of proportion. It's possible isn't it ? Then again maybe for some reason he is not as happy as he used to be and doesn't want to upset you. It could be a lot of things. Talk to him, explain that you love him but you feel that something is not right between the two of you. Give him a chance to say how he feels without being judgemental. Don't be too pushy though and if something is wrong he may just suprise you and open up. You can't really make him tell you though especially if there is honestly nothing to tell. Good luck with it and Merry Xmas.
2006-12-19 09:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be a conflict avoider, or he could feel (rightly or wrongly) that it's unsafe to tell the truth.
Or, you could just plain be wrong and he is happy and what you heard is not true.
If you want the truth, you have to make it safe for him to tell the truth. In other words, he has to see that being truthful will make his life better. That if he tells the truth, you won't leave, divorce, take the kids, etc.
So, is it safe for him to be truthful, or will you punish him for being honest?
I don't know you personally, but I do know that many women punish men if they are honest.
Think of the example of the question, "Do these pants make me look fat?"
Instead of asking him if he is happy, ask him what his happiest memory is, or perhaps what his dream is, something like that. Look for something that describes happiness, and then see if you can make those things happen and/or happen again.
2006-12-19 09:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey a million. I say unload him instantly away, he's already dishonest. 2. you adore him, it extremely is effective. keep loving him (I propose do no longer turn your helpful thoughts right into a detrimental one) yet concentration your potential on your -personal- desires, discover someone who will love you and could no longer enable you down. Then contained in the destiny feasible love him in a diminished way and snort on the cases you spend with him. He then will be a humorous and stupid memory. 3. Many adult men can tell the fact. in case you keep donning "adult men are liars/cheaters" glasses then you actually received't see different ones. 4. he's this style of a guy and could no longer substitute so what's your aspect ? Are you in touch by making him struggle through or do you wanna locate a perfect boyfriend ?
2016-11-27 20:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to the bottom of it and fast. My husband of 10 years wasnt happy and had an affair. His girlfriend told me she confided alot of his unhappiness about his marriage and wife to her. You need to figure out whats making him unhappy and fix it. I know why my husband wasnt happy, and thats a long story. Bring spice into the bedroom, be spontaneous, flirt with him when he's least expecting it, be bold in the bedroom, dont ever let him get bored with anything. Wether its sexual or not. Not that you have to be perfect "robot' of a girlfriend, or give up your self respect and things you like. Just take a step back and look at the big picture and you'll know if he's truely happy or not, and if hes not, then fix it.
2006-12-19 09:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A large portion of men don't dwell on what they are feeling because they see feelings like a river constantly changing. The few men that I have know to dwell on what they are feeling were all depressed. So your husband may not be happy right now, but he may have faith that he will again be happy with you.
2006-12-19 09:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a little one changes a relationship..Changes are scary.. So just give him time to adjust to the new changes..I'm sure it will all work out..
Congrats on the little one
2006-12-20 03:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by ahg30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really think that men can't tell the truth to women, how are you going to be able to trust my answer?
2006-12-19 09:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone, when he is ready he will tell you. maybe there is somethings you used to do befroe the little one came, and you are not doing it know.
2006-12-19 09:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by rjsr40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave it alone time will tell the truth and let him know that you know there are more fish in the sea......for you not him and you dont NEED him, you CHOOSE for him to be there!
2006-12-19 09:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jim&Mindie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋