change after married?

Question

Why is people change their after married? it should be happy married

Answer 1

When people are dating, they wear a mask that gives the impression that they are better, or more, than they actually are. Once they are married, they feel safe in the relationship, and they don't have to try to impress their spouses anymore. So they revert back to what they actually are.

You can try putting your foot down, and tell your spouse that you will not stand for this behaviour. Tell them that it makes you very sad that the person you married was just a facade. If they love you enough, they may be willing to try to change permanently.

Answer 2

People change. Nobody stays exactly the same from birth to death. The trick is for a husband and wife to change in positive ways and become more and more happy with each other as a result of these changes as the years go by. That's what my wife and I have done and we have been increasingly happily married for 20 years. Some changes I have made have been to become more emotionally secure and more trustworthy. Some changes she has made are to become more trusting and a better communicator.

Answer 3

Well if you two moved in together after being married then you might just be realizing now that its not going to work. A lot of people don't know how their partner really is until they move in together. And some people just go through something like post traumatic disorder.....this might be a huge move in their life and they don't know how to handle it so they go into a state of depression.

Your best bet is to ask your partner. There is nothing wrong with asking. Find out why your partner isn't happy and then do something to change that.

Answer 4

Im not married, but my mother is on her second marriage and for the "most" part of there relationship, her and my stepdad are very much in love and they have been together over 20 yrs. No relationship is perfect and I think that almost everyone can agree that the passion who experience with one another in the beginning does fade over time. Its hard to have time when there are jobs, children, housework, and social time. I think that if you at least take some time everyay to let your partner know you still care, or even leave cute notes her to read, you can keep that feelings. Set up a day out of the week whereyou and her make it "your day" and either make love all day or go out somewhere fancy.

Answer 5

After you get married things change because you truly get to know the person and their bad habits and annoying qwirks. This is why you should wait until you really know someone before you marry them. Now days people jump into stuff to qucikly. Everyone seems to find their sould mate without even knowing who the person really is.

Answer 6

I think that weather you are married or not, after you have been with someone for a while, the relationship changes. Not worsens, but that 'dating' feeling is gone. I don't think its a bad thing, just a different part of the relationship.

Answer 7

Because they have gotten what they wanted and can let down the front they used to get married. Women think that sex is now not important (when to be honest, it should be MORE important than before you got married) So, once people get that ring on their finger, they take their vows for granted and things get bad.

Answer 8

They don't change. They just get comfortable with who they are with the other person and let the other person get to really know them.

Answer 9

hmmmm....good question...maybe people just become too comfortable once they are totally commited...they don't try as hard to make the other person happy.....a good marriage takes a lot of work.....otherwise it will get stale and boring no matter how much you love each other....

Answer 10

it depend on each person everyone has different though changes are good some time