I saw a guy on the registerd sex offenders website that married a girl I used to know. I haven't talked to her in years, so I don't know if she knows. They just had a baby. The guy was convicted of raping a 4 year old boy.
2006-12-19 08:40:17 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If so, how is this enforced?
2006-12-19 08:43:23 · update #1
(I printed out the webpage that showed his picture and described his crime and mailed it to her anonymously.)
2006-12-19 08:45:59 · update #2
There is no legal requirement to do so. Morally, he should have told her.
2006-12-19 08:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised CPS will not investigate based upon the complaint of wrong-doing at the residence. However, CPS may also be "walking on thin ice" should someone make an allegation of wrong-doing solely based upon the fact that the mother is dating a convicted sex offender. That in of itself is not a valid complaint. The complaint should state that a noted difference in behavior has taken place since the convicted sex offender moved in! Additionally, this is an issue that should be handled by those involved with the immediate family. Though there is no question of your loyalty to your friend....you are an outsider providing "heresay" evidence which doesn't amount to a lot of credible information. I would make every attempt to learn of the childrens fathers location to make him aware of the situation as he DOES have a right to know what kind of environment his children are in! The police can make a "courtesy" check but are extremely limited to that allowable by law whereas CPS has more freedom to investigate. The father SHOULD have some sort of legal order in place to allow for visitation. Hopefully if something is amiss the children will talk to him. If not....pursue CPS and law enforcement vigorously or contact your local District Attorney's Office. Best wishes!
2016-05-22 21:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, I'm not certain if there is any requirement to tell a new spouse, but ethically, he most certainly should have been open with her about this.
With that being said, it is not your place either. It seems that you are not that close of friends, since you describe her as "a girl I used to know," so you should definitely be careful about how you tread regarding this situation.
If they have a child together, and only if you are absolutely certain that the man that she married is indeed the person on the offenders web site, then you should notify CPS. There is some responsibility regarding the child, but no responsibility at all for the woman, as she is an adult and should be free to make her own decisions.
2006-12-19 09:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he is required by law to do is to register at the local Police Station as a sex offender & the wife will find out as soon as they make a home visit to the address he has given to them. If he is not at that address, he's in for a rude awakening. Chances are good that your friend knows & she thinks she can help him to stay on the right path. She isn't the first & she won't be the last woman to fall into the hands of a predator. These guys are very good at what they do best...manipulation for their own needs & pleasures! I live in a building that has 2 currently living here & the press makes their lives & everyone else's a living hell. These 2 are on heavy meds & they drink alcohol to excess. It's just a matter of time before something happens & we all are aware of it.
2006-12-19 09:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. This guy should have been totally honest up front before getting married and told her. Now she has to find out the hard way and will probably devastate her but she has a right and must know. Im surprised the state didnt inform her when they applied for their license. This might be an area where someone might just contacting their govt officials for a change. This is serious stuff and something has to be done about it. You have done the right thing here. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-19 08:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should send her an anonymous email. It might not be him. But I wouldn't let her know that it was you. I was in a similar situation with my best friend. I HATED the guy and I'm still not fond of him. But for her sake, I don't say anything any longer. I love her. But I don't like him nor do I associate with him when I don't have to. She knows how I feel. It's a hard thing to do when you have a good friend. I can say he was upfront with her about it and he served time. It won't do you any good to let her know yourself...if you can do it without letting her know it's you, ok. She probably knows anyway. Do what you know is right. Godloveyou for being concerned for your friend. Blessed holidays.
2006-12-19 08:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you. i would have done the same thing in a heart beat. it would have been in his best interest to let her know before they married. lets hope he did. if he didn't tell her then now he has to deal with it. if she knew about it before she married him, then she has to be aware there are dangers he is not cured nor will he ever be, there are no cures for pediphiles or rapists. i check my registery every now and then. you have to be careful these days who you're dealing with because people don't always tell the truth. sex offenders cannot be rehabilated now matter what and that's a lot to ask someone to deal with. she better be all up into his business whether she stays with him or not. i don't know her but i wish her all the luck in the world because she is going to need it. that child has to be protected at all times.
2006-12-19 09:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess they dont have to but wants you are considered a sex offender where I come from they have to be at least so many yards away from any schools and etc. And they have to register as a sex offender in their state. But if there is a way to let her know then tell her.
2006-12-19 09:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
morally, yes, technically, no, that is why there is a sex offender registry. it is the public's responsibility to keep up to date on who is on it.
unless it is something like he wants to be an elementary school teacher or something.
and his probation officer should have stopped him from being around the baby. that happened to a guy i know, he's not allowed to see his daughter because he is on the list. but he's also divorced, and it's a big custody battle, so that could have something to do with it.
2006-12-19 10:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is not obligated by law to tell anyone of his status.
I would normally say MYOB, but in this case, I would find a way to tell her. The man is a violent pedophile and no sane woman would agree to have a child with such a monster. She either does not know or she's insane. If it were me, I would definitely want to know so that I could leave him and seek termination of all parental rights.
2006-12-19 08:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By registering, that makes it public knowledge. I don't know that they have to tell everyone that they meet.
Any guy I meet and want to spend any time with, I run his name through the national registry. With so many predators out there, a woman can never be too careful.
2006-12-19 09:11:41 · answer #11 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋