Should I just deal with not getting any sex from my wife?

Question

while I at work all day?

I really wanna do her in the daytime too. She is the best.

Answer 1

goodness, what a lucky woman she is!!......gitterdone! *wink*

Answer 2

Uh..no. But you should understand that a woman's libido isn't quite as active as a man's you should be getting SOME, even if it's just a little. Maybe you should sit and talk with her and find out what's up? Usually when I say no to sex it's because I've been harrassed repeatedly OR I'm not feeling good. Set the mood and be attentive.

HAPPY HUMPING!

Answer 3

Dude, I will probably be the only one who says this to you, so it will be easy to ignore or disregard it. Now, you dont have a choice but to deal with it. The question is what will you take as your decision? Now, a lot will say cheat. Others will say counseling, blah, blah, blah, blah.

First, if you wife simply doesnt want to give it up or is not taking care of your sexual needs, then she is wrong, for she has a duty to do so, and you have a right to expect sex with her, as she has that right to expect it from her husband and you have a duty to provide that to her.

Having said all of that, it probably doesnt matter to her if she is being wrong or nasty. She probably thinks like so many women do. It is about how she feels and what she wants and what you have done for her today.

But, you married her. You vowed to God and to her, as she did to God and you. Nothing says that marriage is easy or that you get what you deserve, want, like, need, expect, wish, etc. That is the bottom line.

I would suggest that you try to pay attention to her needs, wants, desires, etc. Yes, she may take you as a complete fool and use you and still say no. But, you are doing what you are suppose to do as a husband and even a bit more if you do these things. Sometimes, things like this almost make the other hate themselves for how they treat you and they improve. Sometimes they get ashamed with themselves and improve. Sometimes it has no affect and they just keep wanting more from you and giving little.

Look, marriage is a for keeps thing, not a for as long as it is this or that thing. Even if you feel stupid for doing the right things, are told you are a complete idiot for not doing the secretary when the wife says no, even if you just wish she would leave you, you are to still do what you commited to God and to her, not to mention commited to yourself.

Maybe if we had more folks worried about what was right and what they commited to doing, we would have less trouble in marriage and fewer divorces.

When you read all these responses, think to yourself. Would you want to go into business with, have as relatives, as a mate or close freind, those who wrote some of what you get as answers? Many of the answers will tell you just why so many are in the shape you are, with a selfish or uncaring spouse.

Lastly, I will suggest that you simply keep a diary of what you all do, what she says in regards to sex, when you have it, when you asked and she said no. Also, consider writing her a note that explains to her what you feel, how this makes you feel, etc. Maybe it will make her see things differently.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

Well I know it can be an effort, but think how much the few hours of waiting will make it better.

I understand about "Nooners" myself. Darn husband always at work supporting the family and being decent when I want to have sex in the afternoon. You know, sometimes I call him at work and say, "You know if you were home right now we could be having sex." But ,NO, he only comes home occasionally to see to my needs. He is so mean to me! I know, I'll punish him extra good when he gets home! *hehe* (naughty thoughts and actions)

LOL!

Answer 5

Do you get a break or lunch break? You know that's in the daytime.

Answer 6

Yes if you are a religious man. No if you are a worldly man. If you are unequally yoked I am sorry for you. If she is a christian woman than let her know that it isn't Gods will that she keep herself from her husband. She is forcing temptation on you and with holding something that doesn't solely belong to her. you belong to her and she to you. Love her and teach her the word of God.

Answer 7

Why doesn't she want to do it? Maybe you should start with asking her. It could be a physical thing. If not, you better do everything you can to get her in the mood or else you will be very tempted to go outside of your marriage to get it.

Answer 8

yes i am trying to but she was raped as a young women and never got help now I'm suffering as a result to it.. such pain when I'm a real ball a fire always wanting it. never getting it

Answer 9

Sex isnt everything.........you love her and say she is the best I would give up sex for true happiness any day!

Answer 10

WHY WOULD SHE NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU? MAYBE SHE DOESNT THINK YOU ARE THE BEST AT WHAT YOU DO? FIND OUT WHY BY TALKING TO HER INSTEAD OF WHINING ABOUT IT. YOU SOUND LIKE YOU REALLY LOVE HER SO MAKE IT WORK!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 11

The during your lunch break drive your *** on home and say honey Im home to do ya!!