My husband has not done anything wrong for me to divorce him over. The feelings are just not there. But I don't think that's a good enough reason to leave.
2006-12-19 08:11:58 · 18 answers · asked by Pam 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Asking this question leads me to believe that you are not ready to divorce him. It seems that you want to be happy with him. Does he want to be with you? Does he know that you are feeling this way? Can you talk with him about the way you feel? Have you been happy with him in the past? What are the good things/memories/happy times in your relationship?
I think you need to talk to him. Figure out how you both feel about each other and what your goals are. If the feelings are mutual, you have a good basis to stay in the relationship and move forward to make it better.
I urge you not to make a rash decision without thinking this through completely by yourself and sharing your feelings with your husband. Marriage is too precious to end without trying to make it work.
Also you may want to consider marriage counseling or personal counseling just for you. Your listlessness may not be just because of your marriage. There could be other stresses in your life that are preventing you from feeling fulfilled in your marriage.
A spouse can be the best support in your life. I hope you will be able to find happiness with him. Good luck.
2006-12-19 08:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by Bunni18 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so who gave you the idea that marriage is all fun and pleasure. Marriage is a 24x7 constant work to keep it alive and spicy. Are you doing your share to keep it alive? You will feel exactly the same way after your second, third, fourth... marriage too. Changing clothes does not change a person, but its the attitude that brings about the change. First talk to your husband, tell him how you feel in polite and gentle manner, choose your words wisely, you both can agree on seeking marriage counseling. Just because your bored of being married is no reason to get a divorce, just makes you a horrible person. Most marriages go through such stages.... you are not alone.
2006-12-19 08:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Look to yourself for the answers first. Are you happy with your life? How can you be happy with anyone else if not yourself? Is there anything you used to do for him/to him that you aren't doing now? Why?
2. It's for better or worse...I'm a strong believer in that. At some point you too had that "in love" feeling. It's true that it can change over time but try to remember the love you shared in the past to help rekindle it. Do you have any old love letters? Do read them again! better yet...read one to him!
3. After looking to yourself, which it sounds like you are reflecting on now anyway, then seek to communicate with him. Is there anything that he used to do that you miss? Drop him a note or idea one day.
2006-12-19 08:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Zliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you try to psych yourself up to be happy in your marriage try just deciding to by happy with yourself. If you are unhappy now it is not anything outside yourself causing it. The roots of any unhappiness or discontent lie only within your self.
God bless.
2006-12-19 08:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHy look for a reason especially whe n your husband loves you a nd he think's you love him. But staying there won't help him or you. SO I would tell him and try to work it out or leave. If you need to chat more about this IM me anytime
2006-12-19 08:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the ONLY reason to get divorced. I left my wife because I wasn't happy, and couldn't see happiness in the future with her. Being happy is the ultimate goal in life...you have to do what you have to do to find it. Listen to your heart. Best of luck to you!
2006-12-19 08:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to divorce him. you cannot psych yourself to be happy.
2006-12-19 08:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by 120 IQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better now then later. I tried for over 15 years and finally gave up. It was not worth it.
2006-12-19 08:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jimfix 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look for things to do that make you happy and try to include him. Try to enjoy life and relax.Go to church and look for what is really important.
2006-12-19 08:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have to pysche yourself up to be happy regardless of being married or not that leads to other problems dont you watch court tv??
2006-12-19 08:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by treez1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋