I have been with the same man for the past 8 years. I really never thought that I would want to get married again. but i find myself in just that situation. I am in love with him. I just feel like sometimes he don't feel for me the way that i feel for him. I always get to hear from his friends how he talks so good about me and how lucky he thinks he is. If he is so lucky, where is the progress in our relationship. Pls help, i just don't know what to do anymore.
2006-12-19 08:01:36 · 17 answers · asked by Pandora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"I always get to hear from his friends how he talks so good about me and how lucky he thinks he is."
After 8 years I'm sure he thinks you deserve a diamond but maybe he thinks you don't want one?
"I really never thought that I would want to get married again."
Have you been telling him you never want to get married again? Guys aren't that good at reading into things when we don't tell the truth....if he's happy and thinks you are too then why would he want to change anything?
I am confident that you know the answer to your own question.
2006-12-19 08:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Zliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready for the next step, communication is the key. Have a conversation about the course the relationship is on, and if he is as much in love with you as you are with him, maybe you will get your diamond. If you do, let us know the circumstances, especially me because I'm trying to get a diamond in 2007 (first part of the year).
2006-12-19 20:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie of course he thinks you deserve one. If he speaks that highly of you I'm sure he does. Does he know that you've changed your mind about marriage? If he doesn't know then you can't blame him for not asking. Drop a hint or two. Ask him how he feels about you. There can't be progress if he thinks you're content with the status quo. Tell him you love him. If you do that he'll either run like a thief in the night or commit but, after 8 years it's really time to find out.
2006-12-19 16:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him directly, instead of to his friends regarding your relationship. What they are saying must be the truth or they would not be saying such. So, sit down and have a serious heart to heart. Tell him how you feel let him know. He is not a mind reader. And most men are not very well at suggestion. And you need to ask yourself do you think you deserve a diamond, of-course you do. Stop the negative self talk. "maybe he don't think that i deserve one?" If you don't think you do;why would he? So have the talk. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-19 16:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the symbol is that important to you, talk to him about it. When I got engaged I figured that if I had to ask for an engagement ring, I didn't want it...it's not very romantic, I agree. But my husband is from a different culture and he didn't realise how important it was to me. And now I wish I'd spoken. We've been married for 24 yrs and a diamond wouldn't make it any better, but I wish I had it, anyway.
2006-12-19 16:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by anna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about a diamond? Do you want a diamond, or do you want to get married? Ask him if marriage is in his plans if this is what you want. You have to talk to him, and let him know what your goals/desires are. If a diamond is all you want, save up some $$ and get yourself one.
2006-12-19 16:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do want a diamond or do you want to get married?
I would have an honest discussion. Maybe he doesn't know that you have changed your mind about marriage.
2006-12-19 16:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by dmjrev 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 8 years you certainly have the right to ask him outright what is going on. Sounds like he's just gotten too comfortable coasting along as is. He needs a little prodding.
2006-12-19 16:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have been together for 8 years and you say that you were married before. you sound like you are old enough and have been with this man long enough to place all your cards on the table. tell him how you feel and what you want. you have that right.
2006-12-19 16:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by black mamba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him..tell him you want to re-evaluate the relationship, then let him know all your true feelings./....and emeralds are actually the rarest natural gem, not diamonds....a good one costs a hell of a lot more than a diamond.
2006-12-19 16:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by chikensnsausages 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋