My daughter ha sasked me what a vibrator is she is 11 what can i say how shall i explain?
2006-12-19 07:46:34 · 21 answers · asked by lil titch 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
plz help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
2006-12-21 08:37:03 · update #1
at 11 years old, she knows more about sex then you think. (i know i did) you are her mother, and thank the lord she asked you instead of her friends, because god knows they will not have the right answers. first ask her where she heard it and ask her to tell you what she knows. then fill in the blanks about what info she is missing. making sure she has the right info is your job as a parent,and handling this without freaking out helps her know it is ok to come to you with any problem, and will make her more likely to come to you in the future
2006-12-19 07:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by purplemallkitty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You failed to mention a father in the picture. So without knowing if he's around I'm going to answer as if you're the only parent around.
'It's something for adults' is a good start. Keep it loose and stay cool. If she senses you are nervous, and hiding something, this could twist on you. Pretend you're talking to your best friend instead of your daughter. That might be just the psychological advantage you need to pull through this conversation.
My biggest suggestion: answer her questions, calmly and directly. But keep it to a minimum. Answer only the questions she asks - fail to explain additional material until she asks. If you're comfortable with having these types of conversations with her (now or in the future) let her know 'what else do you wanna know?'
If you're uncomfortable just answer her questions and go back to doing whatever it was you were doing.
Personally: if it was me in your shoes. I'd say 'it's something for adults.' If she probed and happened to ask something about what it was used for I would say 'it has to do with sex'. Usually, the first time you say sex to a kid they stop. If she happened to ask further I would ask her a question.
Sometimes a question is best responded to with a question. Ask her "are you sure you really want to know all of this right now?" MAGIC TRICK: wait until she blinks, walks away or asks another question.
If she asks more my only advice is to be honest and upfront with her. But she's biologically getting there if you read me. Might be time to have a conversation with your kid.
If you fail to be able to stand and deliver, with directness and honesty now, she may lose a degree of respect for you that you will never quite know because you'll never see it. So stand and deliver.
2006-12-19 16:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with her and answer her question like an adult. Dont get upset. I did this as a single dad, and it was the best thing I ever did, because my daughter, new she couls always trust me. Before she started her period, she came to me knowing I wouldexplain it right and I would not be angry with her.
2006-12-19 15:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess this is the time when you should start talking to her about sex..Trust an 11 year old knows ALOT about sex.So since she asked you you need to be the adult and tell her.Don't put it off.She seems comfortable in asking you things.You would rather her know from you then someone else.Best of Luck
2006-12-19 16:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by ♥AsH♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, if you are open and honest with her with everything that she asks now, the better the chance she will come to you before she gets in over her head with a boy. Try not to be embarrassed, she is asking a real question.
2006-12-19 16:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you dont tell her she will find out from someone else like iin school and she might get the wrong idea. Soooooo just explain it to her ofcourse dont go into full detail
p.s. you should be very happy that your daughter trusts you enough to aks you an opean wuestion like taht!!!!
2006-12-19 18:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know this can be a little tricky. I would explain to her that it is a device that women can use to pleasure themselves. That it is normal for women to do that in the privacy of their own bedrooms. There is more information in the site I provided for you to use. I hope this helps
2006-12-19 17:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by softheart_strongwill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't really nessacary for her to know right now. It doesn't deal with society or other day to day activities...I would say it's something you don't need to know yet and the knowledge wouldn't help her anyway. No need to make them grow up too fast
2006-12-19 15:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Annabelle 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can´t help you with that one that´s hard ´couse she is only 11 good luck
2006-12-22 02:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by Osmel L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once asked my mom what 69 ment (if that doesn't come out I said sixty nine), and she just came out and told me. Don't lie to her.
2006-12-20 20:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋