Why do pregnant women make fun of people who can't get pregnant easily as them?

Question

Or have lost a baby, and still they rub their current pregnancy in these people's faces? Why do that?

Answer 1

Rule Number 1:

Be a 'childfree by choice'

Rule Number 2:

Save money because you will not be reproducing. Using that saved money, go for a 'world trip' in a cruise liner

Rule Number 3:

Come back home and make fun of pregnant women.

Life is easy. But the first thing for you girls is kill your emotions and stop reproducing.

Answer 2

Wow...I am not sure who did this to you...but it is horrible. Be careful though...bc I have a friend who has not spoken to me since she found out I was preggers. She has had three miscarriages and had a really hard time when I was not even trying and got pregnant. They are trying again and nothing.

She is not a close friend of mine...and I did not take it personally. I send her little notes to say hello...but I know it is hard for her. I dont think she even wants to see me bc I am 6 months and def. showing. I respect her for that...but at the same time...it is hard bc I would like to share it with her.

I am not sure how you rub something in about pregnancies. Most women do talk about the baby...it is only natural, so I dont think that is rubbing it in, but may look like it to the other person.

I have never made fun of people who cannot get preggers, I am sad for them, especially bc they want to be parents so bad.

Maybe you should talk to this person...or just back away until after the baby is born.

Answer 3

I do not think they mean to. I would never make fun of them. I have tried six years to get pregnant and thought I never could. It hurts though when people make comments like "Oh you could never know because you are not" etc. You just want to yell at them, "It's not like I haven't tried"! I think it boils down to people not thinking. Though I am 12 weeks I do not rub it in other peoples faces. I can't help being joyful, but then comes the fact that I could lose the child after trying so long. It's makes a person who has had difficutly understand more I hope if it is you you get what your heart desires. I also hope that mothers or pregnant women think before they say things. We are human.

Answer 4

I personally am having trouble getting pregnant and a ex-friend of mine got pregnant real easy, she rubbed it in my face by saying that I was jealous. I by far was not jealous, only a little upset with myself. I feel that some pregnant women feel that they are better than others because they have something that others want. People like that really have no feelings, or concern for other people, especially one that is a friend or family. It could be a health problem preventing one from getting pregnant (like in my case) and if someone makes fun of them, it just makes them feel worse about themselves. Trust me, for a while, I felt useless, like I couldn't do anything, then I realized that SHE was the one in the wrong. I was nothing but supportive for her and now since she has said that, we are no longer friends. I have seen it many times and all I can say is that people are just mean, plain and simple.

Answer 5

Im 8 wks pregnant. My nephew passed away when he was 4 days old. I dont know of any women including myself that makes fun of her or that rubs their pregnancy in her face. Maybe it is because the mother who cant get pregnant easily and/or lost a baby is very sensitive (as I would be if that happened to me). My sister said to me that she knows these women arent doing it on purpose and had she not gone through what she did it wouldnt bother her. She realized it was her not them (for the most part)

Answer 6

I don't personally know anyone that would do that intentionally, but I know that when I miscarried, I was ultra sensitive for quite a while after. I felt like I couldn't be around anyone who was pregnant, or anyone who had known I was pregnant and that I may have to tell about the miscarriage.

In my case, I have a heart for women who cannot as easily conceive as I. I know the joys of motherhood four times over now, and would hope and wish that every woman could be able to easily discover those joys. Anyone who is robbing you of your ability to grieve a loss or a difficulty is not worth your time. Just be sure you don't cut someone out of your friendship circle who really has good intentions that just went awry.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

Those are usually the women who easily get pregnant. Anyone who has had a problem either getting pregnant or carrying a baby to term wouldn't be so callous!

From a mother of 3 (1 miscarried at 6 months, and 2 beautiful daughters ages 3 and 5)

Answer 8

I don't know that all pregnant women or mothers do that. I think it's awful what some women go through trying to have children of their own. The emotional distress alone would be unbearable. The women that do rub it in their faces certainly take things for granted. I don't have children of my own yet (married 2 years 4 months) but it's one of my biggest fears that I won't be able to. I would NEVER wish that upon someone.

For other women or are pregnant, they sometimes forget that other women aren't able to bear children. They don't mean to rub it in, but it may come off that way if you can't have children yourself. Others are just mean. I don't think the majority of pregnant mothers here are trying to rub their pregnancy in others' faces, but rather just the excitement.

Answer 9

What makes you think people do that? Most pg women can't hide the fact that they're pg, so if you think walking around with a big belly is rubbing it in someone's face, then you're crazy. I have 2 girls, currently 19 weeks pg with #3 and have lost 3 as well. I have never had it rubbed in my face or rubbed my successful pg in anyone's face. If someone does that, they must be extremely cold hearted. I've never known anyone to do that. Maybe you're just overly sensitive to it?

Answer 10

Wow! Get new friends! I never did that. I don't know anyone that did. Pregnancy and loss is such a horrible topic that I'd never be so cruel. I'm one of the lucky ones that gets pregnant and stays that way. But I know even I am not ammune. I knew a woman that carried to term, knowing her child would die at birth (rare condition). All the time her and her husband had with their child was pregnancy, delivery, watching him die within an hour of birth, and burying their child. Who would be cruel to such a couple? Surely not me!

Answer 11

I dont do that I actually feel awful about it my cousin is having a very hard time getting pregnant and has been trying for years then she did get pregnant and miscarried. I feel awful because I have had two unplanned pregnancies already. I try not to talk about it too much.