im really confused on wat to do b/c i love my boyfriend so0o0 much but im just not sure weather i should have sex with him or not right now! when ever im with him i wanna so0o0 badly but thwneever im not with him i start to have second thoughts about it! what should i do! my friend says that i should talk to him about it but thats not the kind of convorsation that i would have in mind to talk to him about!
2006-12-19 07:34:08 · 12 answers · asked by niikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're not close enough to him to talk about it then you're probably not close enough to do it with him. If you're having doubts then don't, this is your choice, not his, not anyone elses. Yes I want to preach and scream at you to wait til you are married or at least older, but I know that lecture just goes in one ear and out the other of teenagers. But listen sweetheart, I'm 22 years old, I've been there and not too long ago. Trust me it's not worth it, it will only complicate every aspect of your life. I didn't have sex til I was 19, and it was still an extreamly complicated matter. Best I can tell you is follow your heart not your hormones. Your heart knows what's right!
2006-12-19 07:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by auequine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer here depends on your age. If 13, then no. If 18 then maybe. Remember that our sex drive is very strong. What do you do when you are around delicious food? You eat. Not much thought goes into it. Similarly, the time to think about sex is before you are in the sexual setting.
Remember that sex makes babies. So if you do not want babies, then you must use contraception.
2006-12-19 07:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, you have only been with your boyfriend a month. Shouldn't you wait a bit longer to have sex? The relationship is still new and you need to get to know each other better. If you are apprehensive about that is your mind telling you that it is not the right time to take this step. Get to know him more before you do anything sexual.
2006-12-19 07:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by jonesty1284 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Confusion and second thoughts is the big red flag that says DONT DO IT. If you were ready there would be no confusion. Whenever you need to seek someone else's advice on whether you should do something or not it means you shouldn't do it.
2006-12-19 07:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Abbie the situation your bf is describing is amazingly painful incredibly whilst they have an erection. He quite could desire to have surgical treatment to loosen it and probable get rid of the foreskin like my son had performed. in any different case whilst he has an erection and has intercourse he can actually chop up the floor down and bleed everywhere. you are able to desire to be worrying in this occasion. If it have been you that could desire to 'tear' badly could you prefer him pressuring you? there are different techniques of having 'intercourse' with no need penetrative intercourse. which incorporate him masturbating you. i think of you are able to desire to be distinctly youthful by utilising the sound of what you assert...i'm no longer likely to lecture you right here! you are able to desire to do what you think of is physically powerful in life. in case you think of he's well worth being around and arranged till he has himself taken care of then stay with him. in case you won't be able to probable wait and you basically could desire to have intercourse you will come across a clean boyfriend because it may be kinder on him in case you probably did or you ought to purchase a vibrator and relieve your self. He does sound like he has a phobia approximately hurting himself which i will totally understand.
2016-10-05 12:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooooooo!!! Whoa, wait good things come in time you shouldn't rush things and especially if your having second thoughts don't get caught up in the moment. Thats how you get something you don't want or ready for.
2006-12-19 07:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to be thinking about sex....wait until it is true love and you are both ready and mature enough to handle sex and the possible consequences of sex....you have your whole life ahead of you....good luck
2006-12-19 07:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rule of thumb, if you cant talk about it, dont do it!! Your maturity in being able to communicate is a sign that maturity is there to act!! What until you are comfortable, wait until it is perfect!
2006-12-19 07:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no just wait make sure he loves you for who you are and not just sex if he loves you then he will respect you and what you decide.
2006-12-19 07:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by lovingmychris 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait till you're married
2006-12-19 07:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋