Today my friends were fighting, and they never have......I mean like they're best friends. So they told me I had 2 chose one or the other. Which would be Jessica or Sydney. Who should I pick?
2006-12-19 07:30:42 · 25 answers · asked by ♥ luving animals ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
They are being immature. There is no reason why you can't be friends with the both of them. If they choose not to be friends with each other, this has nothing to do with you. If you choose to be friends with both of them, you can do things separately. If they decide they won't be friends with you because you are friends with the other individual, I'd say it is their loss.
Also, I have no idea who Jessica or Sydney are...So I can't pick for you.
2006-12-19 07:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't fair for either of your friends to make you choose. You need to stand up for yourself and tell them that it isn't right the position they are putting you in and then tell them you are going to be both their friends. If they have a problm with that, chances are they aren't the definition of a true best friend. Things will come around and work out. Don't pick. That is the answer
2006-12-19 07:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by Katelyn Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like if either is willing to let you go so you can choose...neither is a true friend. What kind of friend would place you in that position?
If they mean that much to you, talk to both of them and explain when King Solomon offered to divide the baby in half between the two women who said they were the real mom, the real mom immediately offered the baby to the other woman to save her baby's life. Naturally, her sacrificial love gave her baby back to her.
Love and friendship can't be divided.
2006-12-19 07:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kasey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, real friends don't expect anyone to choose them over someone else because of their personal feelings. A friend understands you are a person with their own opinions and views.
If I was you, I would ask them how they would feel if you gave each one of them that same demand.How much of a friend would they really feel like?
So, If I was you I would say, you guys work it out for yourselves and leave me out of it. I will not choose who I like based on anyone Else's inabilities to get along.And if you still think I must then I wont be friends with either one of you then.
2006-12-19 07:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose neither. Tell each of them that they are equally important and valuable to you. And, that if they insist on making you choose, then they arent true friends. Because they are not looking out for your best interests. Tell them that you see the best in each one of them, and that regardless of opinions and reasons to fight, the only thing you should fight for is your friendship. Like family, friendship should be unconditional. And, that means forgiveness and understanding.
2006-12-19 07:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make a choice!! There still both your friends, so why choose! You'll only hurt the one you didn't choose and most likely lose that friend. Tell them if they were truly your friends, they wouldn't make you choose. You can still be friends with both of them even if they are mad at each other. It's not fair to you to have to choose one friend over the other!!
2006-12-19 07:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by chichigirl_007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither if they can't get over what ever happened today. It's really immature to get in a fight and they make you pick. I've been in that situation and until they got over it..I would hang out with other people. I still hung out with them..but not as much.
2006-12-19 07:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by mimi_sweethart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question, considering we don't know who they are or what the fight was about. But I say you shouldn't have to pick either one. Your previous answerer was absolutely right - if they were truly your friends, you wouldn't have to choose at all.
If you make a choice, it should be neither. Maybe that will show them that they need to settle their differences for themselves and not drag you into it.
Buena suerte!
2006-12-19 07:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by rayediance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't chose neither of them, I'd wait for them to work it out because eventually they will, depending on what they were arguing about the friendship may recover
2006-12-19 07:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by twiggy_vienna_love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like them both then do not choose. Say I want to be both of your friends. Later when they make up, you will all be friends again.
2006-12-19 07:34:40 · answer #10 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋