my marriage has been in
2006-12-19 07:19:26 · 21 answers · asked by bugaboos grandma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on who the other man is. I'm in love with Jamie Lee Curtis, but my wife accepts this and I let her have her thing with Collin Farril.
If the other man is a more tangible person like a co-worker then you need to think it out a little more. First "loving" someone and being "in love" with someone are not the same. Second when people start to know each other more intimately they are NOT "in love" with the person, but with what they think that person is. It takes years to really know a person and at around this time you aren't "in love" with they you "love" them. This person has turned into a warm blanket of comfortable shoes that you have around. Everyone has been "in love" with the "try and catch me" side of a person to find out that there was not much beyond the illusion they gave off to attract people. I think the question you have to ask yourself is are you willing to give up what you have for what might now REALLY be there?
Think about it, what if you gave up everything to only find out that this other guy just wanted to play with you, but not keep you. Every day people find out that the stranger they slept with last night isn't who they thought they were. Are you willing to risk your husband for that?
Then again what if this other man is everything you want?
"Great Love & Great Reward require Great Risk"
2006-12-19 08:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i wouldn't leave my marriage for another man. It just isn't right and maybe won't work for long. Sometimes how you got a person is the same way you will lose them. I think you might need to take a moment to think about your marriage and if it is worth saving. If not, then do what you feel is right---according to what YOU feel not the fact that you are in love with another man.
2006-12-19 15:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by Chy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your vows.
Forget the husband who loves you and trust you.
Forget the people you will hurt.
Forget the children you will hurt.
Forget all the reasons you got married in the first place.
Forget all the promises you made.
Forget it all.
And go your own way.
If you can handle this and you think its worth it, go ahead. If not, put the brakes on now and get things right with your husband!
2006-12-19 15:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on the marriage.. WORK ON IT NOT some future love interest.. Make a decision to poop or get off the pot.
I will guarantee the GRASS IS NOT GREENER on the others side..
2006-12-19 15:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the respect that he deserves You owe him that much then go and do whatever you want. We all owe respect to the person that we marry, (and I am not talking about physical abuse, no one should stand for that)
If you aren't happy, then file for the big D then go on your happliy way after you are divorced and not worrying about being seen or whatever.
2006-12-19 15:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by cowgirl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we think we are in love, think the other man has what the husband doesn't, only when u leave the husband, for the new love, do u realize nothing is any different, in fact it is worse, and u want husband back, but he has already moved on and is unavailable.
2006-12-19 20:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really love this man, I mean really?
What does your husband mean to you? As a spouse you at least owe him the courtisy to try wot work it out.
2006-12-19 15:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage is over. End it formally and then you are free to be with whomever you choose!
2006-12-19 15:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work out your marriage and give it one more chance. If it doesn't work then leave him.
2006-12-19 15:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you should not be married if you are in love with someone else.
2006-12-19 15:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by Randa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋