He's just being very hard-hearted right now & stubborn. He lives with a woman, too, that I know he doesn't love.It's most likely because he can't stand to be alone. What can I do to soften his heart for me again? We have 3 beautiful daughters together.
2006-12-19 07:18:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I left him about a year ago due to his drinking & taking drugs.I felt uneasy at that time & was thinking of the kids, too. I do remember alot of good times in our many years together & I guess I just still need the man he was. My girls talk about him alot & he does call them & I guess that's what's keeping me still *involved* with him & my feelings, too. IT's just so hard. So many years together. I get asked out by other men, but just don't want to go. My heart is still with my ex. Everytime I think I've moved on...it happens again. Those memories...our family the way it used to be...
2006-12-19 13:35:44 · update #1
My dear, why would you even want a man who is living with another woman, regardless of how you justify it? How do you know he doesn't love her? If he cannot stand to be alone, how can you be sure that if he came back to you, he wouldn't be with you for the same reason? If you have three beautiful daughters together and he is choosing to be with another woman out of hard-heartedness and stubborness, then he is a very shallow person, and you are better off without him. Quit making excuses for him and put more effort into your own life and the lives of your three beautiful daughters who will one day look back and see how their mother handled this situation and use it as a tool for their own relationships.
If he is living with another woman when he has three daughters at home that need him, regardless of the reason (which I doubt is truly out of stubborness and hard-heartedness), you and your daughters are better off without him. Let the other woman deal with his emotional issues and MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
2006-12-19 07:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by Janice Merle L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 19:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the reason for your breakup? If you were to put yourself back in that situation would you still have broken up w/ him? If you answered yes, than it's probably best that you just moved on. Have you dated since he left you? Maybe you should sit down w/ him and ask him how he feels if you really think getting back with him is a good idea. And like your husband, do you want to get back with him because you love him and you see yourself with no one else or are you also lonely? I think you should think about yourself before you go to him. And when you do, tell him everything you have in your mind and if he still hard hearted and stubborn then you probably shouldn't take him back anyways.
2006-12-19 07:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by SUPERWOMAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything to make him come back to you and your girls. he has to want to. and I'm not trying to be mean, but I'm wondering why you'd want him back after he's torn your family apart, is hard hearted, and left you and your children, and moved in with some other woman. he sounds like a total loser to me. even if he did come back to you, he would probably do the same thing to you again at some point in time. it sounds like you and your girls deserve better than this. please give some serious consideration to what you're wanting to do. and remember, there are decent men out there who would love you and your girls, and wouldn't leave you and move in with another woman. consider your options.
Best Wishes to You and your Girls.
2006-12-19 07:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute....
1. he is your EX-husband
2. he does not act like he loves you
3. he does not live with you
4. he lives with another woman
5. YOU THINK he doesn't love her
6. YOU ASSUME he doesn't want to be alone
Wow. Sounds like the beginning of something beautiful. I would advise you to move along, and to not wait for this guy. Why put your life on hold for something that seems like it won't happen? And do NOT mention any of this to your daughters because they should not have their hopes raised on something that is not certain.
Please act maturely and accept reality.
2006-12-19 07:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by shaclare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always have trouble understanding how a man would leave his children. There's nothing my wife could do that would make me leave THEM. However, perhaps he left you because you refuse to dwell in reality. He lives with another woman. Maybe he doesn't love her, but apparently he likes her more than he likes you, which we know because he is with her. So wake up and smell reality. He doesn't want you. He doesn't want you SO much that he was even willing to leave his children to get away from you.
2006-12-19 07:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know he doesn't love her?
maybe he was hurt so badly, that he feels he doesn't want to love someone again yet.
you need to state why you 2 are no longer together if you want honest suggestions or help.
something must be up if fyou can say that he's with her because he doesn't to be alone, and he'd rather be with someone he doesn't love than the mother of his 3 kids.
you need to come clean...
2006-12-19 07:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by mama dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gone. Save your dignity and move on. Get a good lawyer make sure that he does right by you and those beautiful daughters you gave him.
2006-12-19 07:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
change yourself first before trying to reconcile with him.let go of old attitudes and idea's. a desire for something doesn't mean we are ready for it.focus on what u want to be, rather than what u want to have.
2006-12-19 11:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he left you for this other woman i wouldnt take him back no way. he would do it again, hes an ex for a reason keep it that way.
2006-12-19 07:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋