2006-12-19 07:10:42 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, yes and no. What happens is that the person starts to take the marriage for granted and look for other ways to be happy. The love dwindles down to nothingness over a longer period of time probably. But the person isn't ready to just let go yet. Finally, they are. That's when it happens. Sometimes another love interest starts the process rolling. I'm sure there were clues long ago.
2006-12-19 07:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it stops all at once. I think someone slowly finds other things that they love in someone else. Slowly they start to find out they just don't feel they same about their husband/wife and try to deny it for as long as possible. They know truly they love that person still but it is a different kind of love, more of a caring love not a passionate love that they want. They finally wake up one day and want to find that passionate love they are looking for. What is sad is they deny it for so long they end up hurting someone really great because they didn't work on the love that they already had and let it die out.
2006-12-19 15:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by adarmbruster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. People stop loving one another over time. My son was deeply in love with his wife. Even though she once cheated on him, and though she treated him with very little kindness, he still loved her. Just a few months ago, after seven years of marriage, he had an affair. When he and I talked about it, I asked him if he wanted to stay in the marriage. To my surprise, he said he no longer loved his wife and that he had stopped loving her long before he had the affair. I, of course, knew he was unhappy in the marriage, but didn't think he had stopped loving his wife.
She has forgiven my son's indiscretion and is sincerely trying to salvage the marriage. I must admit that she' s nicer to him and more considerate than ever before. But when I mentioned this to him and asked if things were getting better, his only comment was that he doesn't love her.
2006-12-19 15:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think someone can completely stop loving you if they have loved you that long unless they were badly mistreated. It's possible to love someone and not be able to live with them though and that has happened to me. It's hard if there is no discussion about why the other person wants to leave. If I were in this situation I think I would wait a while until I was able to calmly try to talk with them about the reasons.
2006-12-19 15:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth F 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It can. It is not a sudden thing more of a gradual moving apart emotionally. People do grow apart. I don't think that you ever stop loving someone but that love changes over time.
It happened to me after 20 years of marriage. My now ex found someone else who he fell in love with. It was tough, probably the toughest thing I have ever had to deal with. 6 years on I am divorced, have found a wonderful man, have my own home, my kids, work full-time, have great friends. I decided to turn a bad thing into a good thing and am now happier than ever.
2006-12-19 15:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not a matter of "not loving you" it is a matter of boredom. It happens. You can try counseling, but that is usually a short term - stop gap - sort of thing. As bad as it sounds, many prostitutes, not street walkers, have said that they have saved more marriages than marriage councilors. And as a last resort, if you talk about it and see if boredom is the problem, check out your local swingers club. If the marriage is terminal. it won't help at all. But if it can be saved, this is one way to do it. It is not every ones cup of tea, but desperation can give you an incentive.
2006-12-19 15:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it doesn't just happen the love is lost over time. Little things build up and other things come between the people. The announcement may come suddenly but the breakup has been a long time coming.
2006-12-19 15:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately things like that happens. Sometimes an individual can meet someone else with qualities that you lack and they get interested in that individual that seem to share the same common interests as he/she do. Also some people seem to get comfortable in the relationship they stop doing the things that they use to do keep the other satisfied.
2006-12-19 15:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by smallebabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it happens, but not just like that, chances are u never saw it coming, chances are he never gave u a chance to change things, did not just happen overnight, happened a while back, we get busy with life, get involved with things, and don't see things the way they are. usually men fall out of love because they have met someone else, and that someone else is giving them all they think they need, she has an agenda, to get him away from his wife. she has most likely been there for awhile, and working on him awhile, and finally given him an ultimatum, and he went for it, with no regard to the poor hurt spouse sitting at home, feeling very hurt and unloved.
2006-12-19 20:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, yes. It happened to me. I believe it happens when a couple allows life and it's challenges to come between you. Before you know it, money, the home, jobs, and yes, even kids become more of a priority. Neither of you are number one in each others lives.You've got all this "stuff" wedged between you. You drift apart, going in different directions. You both evolve change, without each other, and before you know it, sometimes imperceptively, you've grown apart. I believe when this happens it's just as easy to fall out of love as it was to fall into it.
2006-12-19 19:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋