My husband and I separated 17 years ago because, among other things, he cheated. We have made contact each other again, discovered we have feelings for each other, but I don't trust him. In the meantime, I have found someone who is honest, loving, and a good man, but all I can think of is my husband who cheated. What in the world is wrong with me?
2006-12-19 07:01:57 · 18 answers · asked by Janice Merle L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At least you know something is wrong with you. Stop all contact with your ex or you will drive yourself crazy. You are emotionally cheating on your current man.
2006-12-19 07:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by boredperv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just my guess: You're ex-husband is familiar and you know what to expect from him and he knows all about you. The other guy is uncharted territory and he doesn't know all your quirks so its a little scary.
17 years is a long time and I think some men can overcome their cheating nature but not all so if you decided to keep with familiar waters keep your heart guarded. Personally, I would go for the other guy...honest, loving , good man....not a lot of those out there.
2006-12-19 15:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes old love doesn't die. Nothing is wrong with you . You just loved a man that couldn't respect you enough to be faithful. Think about this long & hard before you jump into anything that will cause you more pain cause a cheating man is a big heart smasher.
2006-12-19 15:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are intrigued by your ex-husband but you realize this other man is better.
You and your hubby divorced for a reason, but you also got married for a reason. You will never be completely free of feelings for him but you need to put down those butterflies in your heart and get your feet back on the ground. You should have learned by now.
2006-12-19 15:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dog got out of the back yard, she was gone 3 days. I was leaving for work one morning, there she was lying in front of my door. My point is, is always go back to what you know is best. So you're thinking about your straying husband over Mr. New and Honest, there is a reason why. Find that reason, then make your choice.
2006-12-19 15:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Floss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you were just seriously scarred byt what your husband did to you. Maybe you have forgiven him and moved on with your life but that doesn't mean you will forget about it like nothing happened. Just try to focus in the new man in your life and try to get your husband out of your mind. If you husband didn't treat you right back then....thats his lost.
2006-12-19 15:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thee's nothing wrong with you it's normal, after not seeing him for a long time and you'll were married your brain is remembering how it was before the break up. But you already have someone so don't worry go to the new bf and hug and kiss him and forget about your ex.
2006-12-19 15:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think old flames still have that fire burning & you should put it out because it was unfaithful. There's a new flame in your life that will keep you going forward as well with possibly a bright future ahead. Don't look back at the past, because it will just keep holding you back on something you might miss out on.
2006-12-19 15:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. You just fell in love with him again and then realized that he hadn't changed at all. I wish you all the best that life has to offer. You will get through this one step at a time.
2006-12-19 15:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave that ex alone. You know he pulled a fast one on you already. Why go back for more?
You're more than likely still trying to figure out what "YOU" did wrong to make him stray. FU$CK him! You know what you did wrong? Trust a cheater!
2006-12-19 15:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋