how can i be more friendly?

Question

How can i be more friendly and open with people. I am affriad because i am one of thoose people who are honest and say what i feel and sometimes it is innaporpriate, i tried to think what i was going to say, before i said it, but that doesn't help..and sugesstions? thank you.

Answer 1

It sounds like you and I have the same issue. I have been accused of having a tendency to be too blunt as well. Over the years I've learned that this is a defense mechanism wherein I would try to stop people from rejecting me by pushing them away first. If you know that what you are going to say is blunt and likely to be taken as hurtful, you need to develop an inner voice that teaches you to be more diplomatic.

If you try and are still unable to broaden your circle of friends, you may be destined to have a smaller more intimate circle. However, if that really bothers you then you might consider seeking professional help. That way you might determine a better strategy for dealing with people.

Answer 2

Did you try to think of how you said something would affect the other person? Think about what you say, and if someone said the same type of thing to you if it would hurt your feelings. If not, just find some friends that can understand your style of communicating.

Answer 3

a big factor in how people perceive you is your tone of voice and facial expressions. if you can make sure that both of those are more friendly then you on the right track and maybe over time you gain control of what you say.

Answer 4

You want to be more friendly...try working with handicapped children and see if that helps.

Answer 5

Try to keep your opinions to yourself until you learn a little diplomacy!

Answer 6

try to listen to other people and speak less.. many persons need to be listened and understood without being judge or feel guilty.. so - try it..

Answer 7

You don't have to change for other people. If they can't handle honesty, then they have a problem.