I was dating my fiance before we got engaged.My future mother in law did not know at the time.At one stage he had went onto drugs. Since my future mother in law found out that we were dating when he was on drugs & we were about two months into the relationship she blames me for it.I have sensed that she does not like me at all.This is her only son.another thing is that I am of different religion.My fiance & i have spoken about having kids & how we gonna raise them up with open to both religions but we do not mind each others religion & it has never come between us.
But future mother in law has a major problem & this is all that I am sensing. I have asked my fiance a million times & have arugued once or twice about it & he knows it too. He has also told me he had overheard his mother talking to someone & she then realized he was there so then stopped? We have spoken to her about it she says she loves me as a daughter in law
can i call of wedding? Really tempted because of her
2006-12-19 06:57:02 · 8 answers · asked by MEHNAZ B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How to get rid of a Mother in Law:
1) Dig a big hole
2) Lure her over to the hole with a gross holiday sweatshirt or something lame that Mother-in-Laws like
3) Push her in the hole (keep the holiday sweatshrit so you can either return it or burn it...either is fine)
4) Fill in the hole quickly so no one hears the screams...
5) Plant grass quickly and water often.
6) If anybody asks what happened to the annoying old bat, do not look up when saying, "Nope." That is a sign of lying...
7) Have a nice rest of your life...
Peace and good luck...
2006-12-19 10:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by xxx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your future mother-in-law is the least of your worries. The fact that your fiance was doing drugs really concerns me. You need to REQUIRE that he be clean before a minimum of a year before you will even CONSIDER getting married to hiim. You can find this out by making him take random drug tests, not just urine tests either, you can have his hair tested. He may whine about you not trusting him, but you don't want to get married to someone with addictions. Most likely this problem started long before you met him, he is just telling you that it just started so that he won't scare you off. Also you need to make him go into a detox program, like Narcotics Anonymous or something. I know that this sounds harsh, but you don't want to be dealing with this after you are married and especially after you have children. This is the only way to ensure that.
The religion thing is also a huge deal, yeah you talk about it now, but it will tear your family apart. If you are so commited to your faith, that you won't change faiths for anybody (that is a good thing), son't you want to raise your children in that same faith? I think if you don't care what religion your children choose, than you are not commited enough to it. Besides, it WILL become a place of contention in your home.
I know that now you see everything through rust colored glasses, I have been where you are. Only, you know more about your fiances lifestyle than I did. I got married and found that he had addictions, I dealt with that for 5 years, He was always stopping, always changing, but he never did. Also we were of the same faith, but we were at much different levels of commitment to that faith. I was and still am very devoutly commited to my fatih, he was not really that commited, if he was, there would not have been addictions. After I kicked him out, his mother balmed all his problems on me, even though they all started in High School and she KNEW about them. Still his parents balme me for the failure of the marriage because I was so "judgemetal'. She spent most of our marriage undermining any efforts I made to help him change his ways, I was just supposed to love him and support him and trust him. she thought that a sexy nightie and a hot meal would solve it, but it did not, it only enabled him and made the behavior worse. The only silver lining to my story, is that I don't have kids. I got lucky and did not have to put kids through the struggles that come from a divorce.
If I were you, I would really re-examine you situation. Love DOES NOT solve ever problem. Love IS NOT enough. You really need to think about this before it is too late.
2006-12-19 07:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have more problems than the mother-in-law. Different religions are fine before children. Harder with children. One of you is gonna change his/her mind about that, I promise. Your finance is an ONLY child! He will be very attached to his mother and she to him. Unless you plan to move to the next town, things are going to be nasty. She will be in your home more than you want....will probably have a key to your door, too. She will decide how you spend every holiday. I think you need to decide if your man will stand up to his mother and really place YOU first in his life and plans. If not, let him go. If he will, then marry him. But it would be better if you could move away 50 miles or more. Then, you'd have more privacy in your marriage and still be able to see "Mom" on weekends. Good luck.
2006-12-19 07:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why no longer placed the youngster away once you're vacationing as a substitute? If his autism is unquestionably that undesirable, then you certainly would desire to maintain an eye fixed on him 24/7. There are all styles of issues that a newborn can get themselves into whilst mothers and fathers are not around. as far by using fact the dogs is going, s/he behaved as any dogs needless to say will. the youngster pestered him/her for an prolonged time, and he or she gave him a warning to "lower back off." to this point as dogs "turning," 9 circumstances out of ten it particularly is circumstances like those. mothers and fathers who do no longer understand a thank you to administration their teenagers who think of their dogs ought to easily take a seat there and take regardless of abuse and nagging their teenagers dish out, who're then taken aback whilst the dogs get bored to death with it.
2016-10-18 12:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard one to call . But you're mother-in-law isn't the one getting married. You are! There's always gonna be problems at first regarding relatives of your spouse. It all comes natural. They just have to know you better and you must show your worth. ",) So where's the cake?
2006-12-19 07:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by sexay16f 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DON'T PUT YOUR LIFE ON HOLD BECAUSE OF A JEALOUS MOTHER-IN-LAW...
If he turely loves you , then he will stand his grounds with his mother...
Believe me I know what you are goping through...Been There- Did That...
But I was determined to have him and he felt the same ...So after 28 years together WE STILL STAND OUR GROUNDS...
2006-12-19 07:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by D Coy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are letting her control your life and happiness. Who cares if she likes you as long as he does. She will come around and if she doesn't it's her loss. Sounds like she is 2 faced to me. She'll hafta butt out eventually. (NOONE lives forever)
2006-12-19 07:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need OPhrah
2006-12-19 07:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋