What can I do to improve my social skills and overall become a more social person?

Question

I’ve had the same job for the past 4 years, and in this job, I don’t communicate very much with others. I feel like im starting to lose my ability to socialize with other people. I feel like whenever I do talk to people, I talk wayyy too much, and interrupt, and just overall make an *** of my self. At the same time, I cant tell that this is true or if im just becoming self concuss. What can I do to improve my social skills and overall become a more social person?

Answer 1

Tact,jesus TACT. have you ever heard that statement "give a man enough rope, and he'll hang himself. "" now properly articulated that gives you an idea.Words work the same way. there is such a thing as too much information. Interupting people is just downright rude. every source of information deserves respect even if it is just the doofy guy from accounting, To be a social person, It requires genuine interest in other people, Their lives, their opinions, their jokes good and bad, and how they make you feel. Now it's good to have back and forth, but since you're learning how to be social, listening is key, Annecdotes aren't terrible, just unnessesary intially, don't TOP someones story, and DON'T think about what you are going to say while they are talking, really take it in, ask questions, give feedback, then after if you feel it pertains to the convesation, allow yourself to tell YOUR experience, describing how you felt ect. Never allow yourself to be manipulated.either. don't allow yourself to shamelessly gossip, although a little teeny gossip just can;t be helped.(literally imossible) as long as it's harmless. try being the one in room who's not talking for a change. just listen, and people will automatically include you.( unless you fired someone they knew) good luck i hope this helps. there's more but start with this.......-m

Answer 2

Social skills is a two-way thing, remember. Don't only talk about yourself but take the time to ask about the other person as well. Oh, and remember the rules of proper etiquette. That seems to turn people off.

Answer 3

Get out there girl. Join a book club or volunteer. Social Skills are learned through actual interaction with others. Get off the computer and speak with someone face to face.

Answer 4

A part of social skills of a person are learnt with practice, the other one is gotten by self-confidence, self-esteem.

If you improve both these aspects you'll become a more social person.

Answer 5

you should start to go out more you know to parties to neighbors house for dinner things like that the more you go around people the more your social skills will improve i hope i helped

Answer 6

Start hosting small intimate gatherings at your house and build from there. You could also try looking at Meetup.com where you could find groups that have similar interests to your and regain your social skills by interacting with them.

Answer 7

Join social groups and activities that will put you in situations where you will get better at being social.

Answer 8

First of all , we are our own worst critics! Others may not think you are as bad as you think you are. Just mostly be yourself, and dont worry so much about what others are thinking of you, and I m sure things will fall into place. When you are overly worried about something, or try too hard sometimes, then you have more problems to deal with! Just relax, and be YOURSELF!

Answer 9

This was a great barrier I had to get over to get to where I am today. A bit of a "pursuit of happyness" story on my part. The trick to becoming what you wish to is to first recognize how things happen. Things always occur in one's mind first, then in reality. Everytime that's the way it goes. On some level you visualize it or anticipate it in your mind, and then it occurs. For most people, they get everything they expect from their surroundings, in other words, they take people's view of themselves as how they really are, when in truth that isn't true. You truly are how you see yourself to be, others only are getting their view of you from how you view yourself to be in their eyes. So if you're both looking to one another to see how you are, your actions of looking to them for approval will be who you become according to that process. So in general just practice viewing yourself seriously as a person who is very sociable, look at examples of how you want to be by watching visuals of how you wish to be from movies and the like. If you want to have marylin monroe's sex appeal, simply watch her on youtube or the like and learn to adopt her mannerisms. Never forget them and try to implement them into your natural behaviors as easily as she does herself. Soon it will be a part of yourself, for this is how the rest of your personality was created, you saw a behavior and mimicked it. Majorly from your peers and parents of long times past. You take this to a mental level and always be aware of your behavior and everything you do, down to your very breath itself. Eventually, this new you will become the you that everyone sees and is used to, the only difference is, you'll have everything you've ever wanted or expected from yourself this way. It's simply a choice to make. Isn't it Amazing?

Answer 10

I don't know I am not that social either.people really anoy me