My boyfriend of almost FIVE YEARS that I have put up with so much sh*# from has really never included me in much. I have always looked up to him and tried to get him to include me in things. He has been wanting a Harley for a long time. Not a problem however, I wanted to be included. He goes out and buys one yesterday ..He bought a Harley Davison Fat Boy Softtail..I think...I hope I got it right. Anyway...I always know not to get to excited because there will always be some sort of let down on my end so I waited to see what it was gonna be THIS time. I asked him when he was going to buy me a helmet. He said he only had the bike insured for one person to ride so I couldn't ride it. I started fussing a bit and then he said..that a Harley has a weight limit of 450 lbs and that me and him combined were to heavy to ride. He said he weighed almost 300 lbs and I would put it over the limit because I am over the mark. I AM SO UPSET! Is it true or is he just wanting to play single?
2006-12-19 06:34:39 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Cars & Transportation ➔ Motorcycles
Dear Nurse,
450 lbs sounds too light for a Harley. If you want to know for sure, look on the bike next to the front forks. On the frame behind the forks, there will be a data plate with the letters GVWR and then a number. That number is the weight limit of the bike. Since my little Honda Shadow 700 had a GVWR of 800 lbs, I seriously doubt the Harley has less. It will have more like 1,000 lbs.
Here's the deal. Your boyfriend sounds like an inconsiderate, selfish jerk. It seems like you have been the only one making an effort in the relationship and you're carrying it on your shoulders. My only question to you is why have you put up with that for 5 years?
You need to find someone who will treat you with respect and reciprocate your emotions. This guy sounds like he either has someone on the side or he's just the biggest jerk in history. Whatever his problem is, he definately isn't treating you right and doesn't care about you at all.
Don't give him another chance. Just move out or leave or whatever you have to do to get away from him and don't talk to him ever again.
If you want to get back at him, don't even waste your time trying to explain why you're leaving. Don't give him a reason. It will drive him nuts trying to figure out why you left.
If you have to rent an apartment somewhere first, go ahead and plan everything. Rent the place, get all the utilities hooked up, hire movers, and make all the planning without him knowing. Once you're ready to move, schedule it on a day that he's working.
Just make sure you don't take anything of his or else I'll be watching you on Judge Judy one of these days.
Run as fast as you can sweetheart. Don't waste another day of your life with this guy. This investment has crashed and it's time to start over.
2006-12-19 08:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by IL Padrino 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Like anything made to haul our a$$ around, there are RECOMMENDED limits. In that aspect he's not telling you a lie. However, the weight 'limit' is NOT what he states. I weigh 185, the ole lady is 165 and with gear for a long trip @ 100#, plus purchased from the trip. The limit for my FXDP is 700#, and his Fat Boy (which he is....FAT) will haul both of you. Unless of course, you are as big as he, then the saddle isn't near big enough.
Worse comes to worst, dump his fat a$$ and get a really biker, one that shows his ole lady off. Especially on the back of his iron horse. But remember, once a biker *****, always one.
Just to frost his a$$, while he's at work, call a dealership and ask them to verify to 'weight limit'. You could also just check the 'manual' that came with the scooter.
Another thing to torque him up? If you have a camera, take some photos of you butt naked on his new stead, or in some other sexy way. Then send then out on the web, or hang it in an expensive frame on the wall. Have some made into postcards and send them out on 'special occasions'.
2006-12-19 07:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by LifeRyder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him. he used u hardcore for 5 yrs. and btw, a 1200 sportster has a gvr of 1000 pounds; that's rider, any cargo combined, or 2 riders only. and a sportster isnt nearly as big as a fatboy. that bike will haul the both of u easy.
in general tho, if this is his first bike, and he has zero experience riding 2 up, u would putting urself at risk of gettin seriously hurt...which will happen if u go down on any scoot, regardless of make/model. riding 2 up is a whole new ballgame.
girl, he's playin single, and by not having u around when he's on the hunt, it's easy for him to say 'i'm single' to get an easy piece.
get rid of him, and get yer own harley. i betcha u'd be able to ride better than him. ;)
2006-12-19 08:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok yes he is lying. You don't insure motorcycles by how many riders there are going to be. I really doubt there is that low of a weight limit on that bike either. I would just call a Harley shop and ask a general question about the weight limit on that bike or get on the internet and look it up. Sounds like to me you need to go and do a few things on your own with out him. If he doesn't seem to care or want to be with you then leave him now before it gets worse.
2006-12-19 06:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm not good at relationship advice. You will have to make up your own mind on that. Insurance? B.S. They don't ask if you carry passengers, it doesn't make a difference. They ask how long have you been riding. Pleasure or commute? 450 lb. weight limit? More B.S. The GVWR is on a lable on the right front downtube, if you want the real number. I'm sorry but none of it is true.
When I got mine, it was for me and me only. The day I picked it up, my wife got a new helmet and a jacket. And she was on the back when it left the dealership.
2006-12-19 12:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by Firecracker . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the dealer to be sure. But even if it is true, let's look at a few things.
He didn't include you on picking out a bike.
He didn't include you on the financing.
He didn't include you on picking the right insurance.
He didn't include you on purchasing a helmet for you.
However, he did include you on... well there's the...but he had to have thought about...
Let's face it, the bike was/is for him. Always was, always will be. He has not had and never has had any intention of including you when it comes to anything that concerns that bike.
I'm sure you can look at other things over the last 5 years and see evidence of the same thing: His decisions on high dollar items are for his benefit and not yours. Besides, you're his girlfriend, not his wife.
Lose the loser and get with somebody who will see your relationship as a partnership as opposed to something else. BTW, has he proposed in that 5 years?
Hope this helps.
2006-12-19 06:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lemar J 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Been riding 20 years, weigh in at 340, and me and a friend will do 500 miles a day. Never, ever had a problem with "too much weight'. Dump him, he's a loser.
Insurance covers the bike, not the number of riders! ya got ins. for only 1 person in your car or 1 person in your house??
2006-12-20 09:13:22 · answer #7 · answered by Franklin T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're used to his games.
My bike (Harley like custom) carries 550 lbs.
On the frame that runs just in front of the engine on the right hand side should be a tag with info, including load limit.
Out here (calif), I never heard of an insurance policy that only covers the rider, but no passenger.
2006-12-20 01:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by strech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Max load on a softail front tire is at least 440 lbs (depending on the tire) and at least 800 on the back - that's with the cheapest tires. The bike can easily handle 1,200 lbs, and possibly 1,300. Check the tires - they'll have the weight rating on them - one for the front, one for the back. Add them together for the bike's total weight rating.
The bike weighs 714 lbs fully gassed.
Do the math. If he weighs 300, the bike plus rider is at least 1,014. If you weigh about 190 lbs, no problem. If you're 250 or so, there could be a problem. It all depends on the tires.
2006-12-19 11:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by kenwg051 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to agree with so many folks that have already responded, but you boyfriend is playing you for a fool. Personally, I'd let him go off on his own and use that time to find me a decent man that includes you in his thoughts. I'm afraid that Dear Abby would agree with us too. Let him move on on his new bike (which will hold the 2 of you by the way) and you move on in a different direction but not settling for another loser this time.
2006-12-19 08:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Turnhog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋