My son is 11 and my daughter is 13. My son asks a lot of sexually based questions and my husband thinks I'm to honest.
2006-12-19 06:32:05 · 39 answers · asked by Candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is no such thing as too much honesty, esspecially when it comes to your kids. When a question is asked, answer it truthfully, but with tact, of course, be concise - don't drag on and on- just a simple honest answer. If they want more detail, they will ask you for it. However, if you give your kids sugar-coated or half-truth answers, you are looking for trouble. Kids are very smart, and also they hear other answers when they are with their friends - You know the Partnership for a Drug free america ? Remember the egg frying in the pan, and they say "this is your brain. this is your brain on drugs, any questions?" Well, they never specified any specific drug, just all drugs, so when the kids at some point smoked some pot, or watched someone else smoke pot, and then they were perfectly fine, quess what happened?? Kids stopped listening or trusting most adults because it was obvious that they weren't gonna get accurate information - just bull. Now that egg thing is a well-known joke, its on teeshirts, etc...You don't want your kids to not come to you when there might be a real serious question they need answered, because they figure they'll get more non-truths from you- they'll ask one of their friends, instead. If you don't keep open, honest communications with your kids, you've lost the battle when it comes to being able to protect them, get it??
Tell them the truth, even if it requires some plain talk - When something serious comes up for them in the future, they'll come to YOU - because they are used to you giving them the right information. I hope this is helpful.
2006-12-19 06:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that you should never lie to your kids no matter what they ask. when one of your kids asks a sexual question, or really any question, be fully honest. even if your husband doesnt agree with the answer you gave your son, you do what your heart tells you to do. in other words, tell you son the truth, and the WHOLE truth. dont just give bits and pieces of a subject. be honest with your kids. let your husband know that if you dont give your son an answer to a question, he'll find someone else to tell him. let your son know that he can trust you, and that you'll always be there for him.
2006-12-19 06:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by confused_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with it at all as long as you are doing it in a mature way and maybe using kid like analogies. Being open and honest with your kids will probably protect them. I would find out where your son is hearing these things from and tell your husband if he has no say in it when talking to your children then tell him not to talk.
2006-12-19 06:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 14 & 16 and I have always answered there questions honestly. I believe that if you dont tell them the truth they are going to find out wrong information somewhere else and either get into trouble or worse. My kids and I have great relationships and they always come to me for help etc...Keep up the good work in the long run it will pay off.
2006-12-19 06:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong not to.
They're getting too old to give them less-than-honest answers; because they will both be getting sexually involved in some way before you know it. It's only a few years now...
But I think you should also be asking THEM questions.
2006-12-19 07:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not lie to your children about sexual things.
But at 11 and 13 years of age perhaps answering certain question in general terms as opposed to graphic details might be the way to go.
2006-12-19 06:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong to answer your kids' questions. The more they know, the better. The reason? You wouldn't want your kids to do something in that nature and then get into a lot of trouble because they didn't know. Knowledge is power!
2006-12-19 06:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it is NOT wrong!! If they do not get the answers from you where do you think they are going to go to get them??!!! Their 11 and 13 year old friends! Which would you rather have them getting answers from? Me personally I would want my children to get them from me! I have a 9 and 12 yer old and I am ALWAYS upfront and honest with them about any questions they have about sex.
2006-12-19 06:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better it come from you than one of his little friends and television.Children now i have been exposed to a lot at a early age.Not saying you did but, the outside world has sex is everywhere you can't help to be curious at that age.It is not wrong for educated your children and preparing them just go about it in a respectable way.No knowledge is worse than having knowledge right?
2006-12-19 06:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by imacutie2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE HONEST and get your husband a book like I got on how to talk to your kids. I do, and my son is only 9!!!!!
2006-12-19 06:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋