I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. We are great together, we can still talk for hours on end several times a week. We love each other dearly. However we have been through a lot, i.e. unplanned pregnancy ending in abortion, no one really wants us to be together because our families aren't really fond of each other, a lot of girls like him so people are always trying to break us up and my parents don't like him so they make it difficult. Any and everything has happened to try to break us up but we make it through it and are closer than ever. Is this something that is really meant to be?
2006-12-19 06:29:55 · 15 answers · asked by 3262m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do what your heart says if y'all are meant to be together then be together try not to make people come between the two of you
2006-12-19 06:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by drkchocolatedeluxe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is "meant" or "not meant" to be, it is the combination of circumstances that makes something likely or unlikely to succeed. Not every relationship (even when people feel strongly about each other) has a realistic chance of being successful. Sounds like you both are young and are very succeptible to the external influences. As you get older, you learn to navigate the external pressures, and assess the relationship potential more accurately. Some pressures can safely be overlooked, while others you have to pay attention to. After you reach a certain age, your families will just have to deal with your choices in life - but while you're young, they may feel like they have a strong say in whom you choose to be your partner, so they may be more vocal about it, and cause more issues for you than they would if you were older. It's not necessarily a problem that "other girls" like him, or "other boys" like you, but if you or him respond to these advances, it will obviously create problems in your relationship. Bottom line is, it depends on the two of you, and your level of relationship readiness.
2006-12-19 14:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Meant to be", makes it sound like there's some big unknown force taking a hand in this, which in turn, allows you to ignore your own responsibility in making a decision based on compatability issues and common sense. On the other hand, if you've made it thru all that crap already, you two are a strong team, and you should feel good about it. Keep dating, the two year mark is a really good landmark for determining the staying power of your relationship.
2006-12-19 14:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents don't like him, there is probably a reason. You should ask then their reasons, and listen to what they say without arguing. Take away what they tell you and think about it for a few days, trying to understand their point of view. Then ask yourself whether, over the course of a long relationship, such as a marriage, you would come to see your bf in the same way. Be honest with yourself when you do this.
2006-12-19 14:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two are good together. You know how to get through difficult situations. As long as you care about each other and forget what people might think, it will last.
2006-12-19 14:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it. I wouldnt jump into marriage right now, only because of all the other factors. Give your families time (couple years) then get married :) Good luck.
2006-12-19 14:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like it is. so keep doing what you two are doing, and don't let anyone break you up. it seems that you are passing all your barriers, and thats good. just keep talking to each other and when a problem comes up handle it . show them all that you are responsible and that you know what you want. good luck.
2006-12-19 14:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other you will be able to get through anything and overcome all obstacles. Stick it out........it will only strengthen your relationship in the long run!
2006-12-19 14:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mystic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont know if its 'meant to be' but seems like you two are a force to be reckoned with. Keep it strong!
2006-12-19 14:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by *) ayla 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds bad to me.
The abortion would be the killer for me.
Pardon the pun.
2006-12-19 14:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋