I'll keep this as short as possible: love my gf dearly and know she loves me but she can't always show it. asked her about it, we talked; occurs to me (w/out her going into detail b/c she just freezes) she has unresolved issues (given to her from what I can tell) that are pretty big. She knows she needs to change: I have seen her attempts; she is so strong and strong willed that she tries to do it by herslef but I now realize she can't do it alone and probably needs pro help. I want to be there for her and I try to be. I seriously know I can't do it for her, just want her to know I am willing to travel this road w/ her to the end. So what do I tell her? Anything? Lead by example? This is extra tough b/c no one I know has any practical experience to advise from.
2006-12-19 06:22:52 · 2 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Some Issues possess the personality of a person. Getting past them leaves you in the company of a stranger. "The lightbulb has to want to change".
This is about you. You have Love. If you need change also, then think - you only go through life once. Be You.
2006-12-19 06:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by Happy Camper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may have some past abuse issues. Those memories can be very traumatic and so hard to deal with that one just "freezes". I know I have for years. You sound like you're on the right track with professional help. You also sound wise in knowing you can't fix this for her, but knowing you're there, accepting and understanding, is all any girl wants in getting through something like that. Let her know asking for help doesn't make her weak. She doesn't have to go it alone. There are many people who will understand her and be able to help her move on with her life and be happy.
2006-12-19 14:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by Emily M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋