Someone posted on a site that they cheated on their wife. I feel
cheating is the worst thing you could do to someone. I know everyone has their own opinion, but I FEEL that if you cheat on someone, you don't really love that person. I could never knowingly hurt my husband so bad because I love and respect him way to much to cheat on him and hurt him like that. Not only that, cheating is a deception. If you cheat, you deceive your spouse and your kids.
CHEATING IS VERY BAD! I HAVE NO RESPECT WHAT-SO-EVER FOR ANYONE WHO CHEATS ON THEIR SPOUSE!
If you can't even have respect for your own spouse and kids, how can you expect people to have respect for you?
AGAIN, THIS IS JUST THE WAY I FEEL! Does anyone else feel the same way?
2006-12-19 06:21:54 · 27 answers · asked by Billys girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it's the worst thing you could do. If the relationship is done, at least have the decency to end it before moving on. It's not right to put your family through that crap. My dad did that and I spent a long time hating him and thinking that all men were horrible pigs and that I would never marry. It can really screw up your kids.
2006-12-19 06:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is to complicated to file one into such groups. There are many reasons why someone would cheat not all are good reasons. Sometimes it just a stupid mistake that hurts more in guilt than anything else. But regardless, It is better to find the reasons behind a cheating spouse and both must honesty want to save the relationship. If that is not there you are better off to divorce. If there is children involved then understand that their relationship with you and your spouse have a totally difference relationship. If your relationship fails which is sad but you are a parent forever and that ever changes. It is best to use a parenting coordinator to setup a fair co-parenting plan. Regardless on who cheated the kids should have the right to love both parents equally
2006-12-19 07:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100% that cheating is ALWAYS wrong. There are degrees of it for sure, and it isn't always the end of a marriage (oddly, some marriages seem to have been made stronger as a result) but it is never justified.
HOWEVER I will disagree with you on one point: people can (and do) cheat even though they truly love their spouse. It's hard to explain, but if my moral character were reduced I would become a cheater, even though I love my wife very much. My guilt levels would be too high to bear.
Cheating says more about your character and morals than anything else.
2006-12-19 06:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HELL YEAH!!! I was cheated on be my ex husband so I know first hand the damage it can do to a marriage and family. Not only was I devastated but my children were as well! And there I was all alone to pick up the pieces and make a family out of just me and my 2 children. I would NEVER wish it upon anyone to be cheated on and I would NEVER even think of cheating on another person!!!!
2006-12-19 06:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't judge people in general...everyone has his or her own reasons for cheating...like u said they might not love their spouse anymore, or lack something emotional or sexual in their relationship, maybe their spouse mistreats them and they find comfort with the other person.
But like you said cheating not only affects the husband and wife but also the kids and the family, so cheating has consenquences that the cheaters do not pay attention to at the beginning.
2006-12-19 06:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah.... I feel you! I just found out that I was cheated on just recently. My life is sooo crushed. Don't know what to do now! I just take it one day at a time.. and hope for the best.
Worst thing is.... I gave him the chances to go.. you know how people say trust your gut? Well yea... do it! I do trust my gut but this guy is an agressive guy that wants to have his cake and eat it too! So now where am I in life? Scared.. Angry...hurt... At the same time, I do know he's not good for me which helps motivate me to move on.. it takes time I guess. So I feel you!!!!!
Cherish what you have with your man.... don't take anything for granted. I was young and dumb. Or maybe I should say I'm young and DUMB!
2006-12-19 06:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Destinee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there are overwhelming problems in a marriage. I think marriages without children are especially vulnerable. Everyone doesn't have the 5 figure bank accounts to take care of a marriage legally. Cheating and pretending everything is OK is as bad as you say. But there are open marriages where there is agreement to dally. Lots of things to consider here..............
2006-12-19 06:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to the curb honey, to the curb. if you're in a relationship with someone, married or not, cheating is unacceptable. it doesn't have to mean that you don't love that person, it means you have no respect for them or your relationship you have with them. people should not only be honest with others, they should be honest with themselves. there is nothing wrong with playing the field as long as people know where they stand with you. stay single if you don't want to be with just one person and be mature enough to say so. a lot less hearts could be broken that way. and why get married only to cheat. that makes no sense. people shouldn't get married unless they believe in it.
2006-12-19 06:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the exact same way. I think cheating is selfish and self-centered behaviour. I wish people who choose to cheat could experience the pain and hurt their betrayal costs those they claim to love.
2006-12-19 06:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with you! Cheating is the lowest thing you could do in a relationship!
2006-12-19 06:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋