i am 26 weeks pregnant and all my dad and them can say is how big i am getting and i feel like my boyfirend is starting to become less attracted to me because i am gaining weight. he doesnt look at me the same way and i feel like he misses my old body. when we used to have sex he would comment on how good i looked and stare at me and now its not like that. i feel so unatractive and it worries me that i might lose him. when i ask him about it he tells me i am crazy and he loves me and i am still beautiful but i feel like he is just saying that so i wont cry since my hormones are wacky. he just thinks i am over reacting but i dunno what to do? has ne one felt this way before and what can i do to make this feeling go away.
2006-12-19 06:20:18 · 13 answers · asked by Bree 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sweetie...I feel this way everyday and all day. I cried so hard on Saturday night when getting ready for a party bc my boobs are so large, I look like a porn star!! No really...I do. I am small framed, all belly and boobs!! I look like I had them done to a size DD!!! They are ridicolous!!!
Your man does think you are beautiful...I promise. You are carrying his child, and that means more than you can imagine. You need to tell your dad to shut the hell up!! Honestly...speak up, they are being mean and it is not neccesary. I would smack my family if they said something like that to me...no matter how true it may be. They may not relaize that they are hurting you. I would say to my dad if I had one...he can kiss it, and if he wants to see his grandchild he will act right to the mother!!!
That may sound harsh...but so is what they are saying!!!
I feel this way all the time, and I deal with it by saying to myself that after this baby is born when they clear me for exercise...I will get down to a lower weight than I was before this started. I want to be a hot mom!!! I weigh 151 the last time I went to doctor, and I am sure more by Jan 2, thanks to the holidays!! Enjoy this time...put on a cute top, some make-up, and tell everyone else to kiss your cute pregnant bootie!!!
2006-12-19 07:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is to wait and have the baby. Sometimes men are insensitive in what they say and it's especially true with your family.
Your boyfriend probably is saying that to make you feel good (and not cry) and that's because he does love you. If he didn't, he would just tell you something horrible and not care how you reacted. But the reality is, that your body isn't the same as before you were pregnant and so, of course he may be a little bit in shock right now, especially if he likes thinner women.
Personally, I think that pregnant women are extremely sexy, but that's me. After you have the baby, he will be the same person as he was before.
Most of what you are feeling right now, is definitely from the hormone imbalance. You'll be back to normal after the baby comes as well.
One thing that you can do once you are able, is start to exercise some, to lose the baby weight. If your boyfriend doesn't get the fire back in his eye after that, then you may have cause for concern.
As a guy, I have always been of the opinion that if a man truly loves a woman, then a change in looks shouldn't change the love. If he doesn't feel that way, then ask him how you should feel when he starts losing his hair and eventually his teeth; also when he gets the middle aged spread around the waist that all men get.
Hang in there, you'll have a great family soon! Enjoy!!!
2006-12-19 06:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by Goyo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only gained 1 pound so far with this pregnancy, i am also 26 weeks (due march 29th with a boy!) but i feel the SAME way!!! Your boyfriend probably isn't use to the changes, neither are you. I'm sure he loves you just as much as he did before the baby. The belly might be intimidating during love making...is he worried he could hurt you or the baby now? That could also effect it. Don't worry though, you are pregnant and it justifies all these feelings...it better anyways because i have been a nut lately! hahaha I cried one morning watching The price is Right, because a lady won a car......so dont worry! haha. You are beautiful im sure! :-) Merry christmas to ya and good luck on the upcoming baby.
2006-12-19 06:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey it is just your hormones you feel that way about yourself he dont feel that way about you just think if you did not eat and you are very underweight they would say other things about you what are are going through is just for a while dont starve your baby let your baby grow it's normal and your husband feels the same way you are not going through any thing any different than any other pregnant women enjoy your body and enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible these feelings will pass if you worry too much and stress over things that is not really happening you will damage the baby meaning have a preemie like .... I DID................. and that is the worst any body can go through every body baby is in there room and I had to visit mine in the NICU for preemies even though now she is 6 months I had 4 others and they were all healthy but with this one i stressed and stressed until she was born at 33 weeks and weighed 4 pounds and 14 ounces so I am telling you to do what ever you have to do to just CALM DOWN it is all in your head . your husband is telling you the truth now you just have to beleive him go shopping for you and baby go to the salon. get your nails done or your toes BE HAPPY when you are depressed it hurts you and your baby and your family .at this point in your life really nothin your husband can say will really satify you be cause of your hormonal stage and it will pass .BELIEVE ME tell every body that says your are big to not say that they would rather for you to be big than small and that you are very sinsitive about your weight right now so dont say that and tell some one how you feel from now on they will understand if they love you
congradulations and good health to you and baby you have a lot to be thankful for
2006-12-19 06:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, Bree! congratulations! Do you think your boyfriend might be worried about hurting you or the baby? Is this your first child? Bfriend might also be pretty overwhelmed by your shared situation. My boyfriend acted much like yours is now. It's a scary time for both of you. Make sure you are doing nice little things for yourself like getting a pedicure or enjoying a favorite meal in a restaurant. Your 'old body' will be back to normal with just a little effort if you are good to yourself during your pregnancy. For now, enjoy being pregnant and look forward to all that great baby love! Good luck! Bambam
2006-12-19 06:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by daisyjzmum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys get really turned on by their pregnant wives, but I think the majority are put off by the idea of having sex with their unborn child "right there". He may be worried about harming the baby, it may just be strange for him to think about your "parts" being used for another purpose - delivering and feeding a baby!
Take his word that he loves you and try some other things that make you feel closer. Romantic dinners, a candle-lit massage, etc. It's normal for you to feel unattractive but I guarantee most people smile when they see you and think how beautiful you are. It's just a different kind of beauty.
Keep up some exercise so you bounce back a little quicker - plus exercise is good for your mood!
2006-12-19 06:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all feel that way when we are pregnant. There's nothing you can do now. But, after the baby is born, start a diet and exercise program. You can also exercise moderately now to keep your weight down. Most women only need to gain 20-30 pounds for a healthy pregnancy. Good Luck!
2006-12-19 06:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just about every single pregnant woman feels this way and it drives me crazy. This is what pregnancy is! You get big!! Maybe it's not attractive in the sense of "Wow, I would love to have sex with her!" But you are still the same person. Maybe he can find some other way to make you feel good about yourself. And maybe you can LET him do that.
2006-12-19 06:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're pregnant.. you're supposed to be gaining weight, and you can still be an attractive pregnant woman! it would be ridiculous for him to leave you because of something like that.
If he is capable of leaving you for that reason, then, you're better off. Anyway, as you said, it's just the hormones talking...
you just listen to you physician, you OBGYN will tell you if your weght is normal, that's all you need to worry about right now, taking care of that baby..
good luck and Congrats!
2006-12-19 06:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by Danii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 weeks and feeling the same way. It wouldn't be so bad if my face wasn't so puffy.♥ I've always had chubby cheeks but now I just feel gross! I guess it'll be worth it when we are holding our little baby's. What are you having? I don't find out until January 12.♥
2006-12-19 06:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by ♥USMCwife♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋