I am just curious to see if there are any success stories of a man who is mentally, emotionally, or physically abusive changing his ways for good. If you know of anyone....can I hear your story?
2006-12-19 06:17:46 · 12 answers · asked by thisisithuh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this isn't a success story, but i was in a relationship of 5 years with a man that was physically, and mentally abusive. there were times that i thought that we were great and nothing would ever happen again or that i had finally made him happy,,, but something would always trigger his anger and it always got taken out on me. I finally, with the help of a good friend, left him. it was not easy to do.. the next night he tried to run me off the road into a ditch with our children in the car... after he said to me he loved me and would never hurt me again. i dont know if a batterer can or will change... or if they would want to change? it would be great to think they would never hurt you again... but is it worth being scared the rest of you life? wandering if you are going to get a black eye because you looked out of the car window instead of looking down?
2006-12-19 06:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by countrygirl_in 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know 2. They never changed. They only seemed to get worse over time. I assume once they abuse you and you continue to date them then it just seems to add fuel to the fire. Changing abuse is a very difficult and long task and there are no guarantees that the person will ever change. Its really just not worth it in the end. Do yourself a favor and get out of the situation. Believe me.
2006-12-19 06:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My ex b/f used to slap his wife around, I found out after being with him for 8 years. He never once even tried to do it to me. Now I hear he is the same way with his new g/f so, not sure why but he's back to his old ways. I think with lots of counselling it MAY work, but have yet to see it.
2006-12-19 06:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never seen a batterer change and i have been around alot of issues like this.
Ive seen them learn restraint but "changing" is something that doesnt happen without usually goign to jail for almost killing their partner. Its almost like they get worse and worse with time because the anger they feel gets more and more rage filled.
2006-12-19 06:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by Prof. Timpo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes I have heard of one in Church and now the man is working for charity. He came to the church last 2 Sunday mass to give his testimonies of how he abusively did so many things and later gave his life to Christ and is now working to help people that was like him before.
2006-12-19 06:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by cajadman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NEVER!
My ex did 6 months in prison for abusing me and when he got out I took him back and it was good for about a month and then he was back to his old ways...again.
2006-12-19 07:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
non that I know of, or at least not without a good beating or two and that doesn't always stop them. Take a baseball bat to him. He got to sleep sometime.
2006-12-19 06:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Out of all the cases I know, they never changed....
2006-12-19 06:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, i'm sure beating on your partner isn't hereditary. It's something that's learned, and if it's learned it can definitely be un-learned, but not without professional help. that's what i think
2006-12-19 06:22:29 · answer #9 · answered by p00mkin 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. I have never seen one change. Never.
2006-12-19 06:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by bjsmama 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋