im 17 and my fiance loves having sex without a condom. should i keep going without one or use one?

Answer 1

i have a feeling you already know the answer to this question, but i will answer it anyway b/c i hope the best for you. .
my husband and i got pregnant before we were ready emotionally (we thought we were), before we were married, and before either of us graduated from college. we have paid for and still are. the financial and emotional stress of having to care for a child, nearly tore us apart quite a few times. then, we were dumb again, did not use birth control yet again, and we ended up with two kids a year apart in age. i didn't have my college degree and we were struggling on his pre-graduation income. we are still together today, and amazingly happy as a young family, b/c we utilized every possible help around us (from family and church, to free or low-cost help from the government--which i never felt good about doing and always wished we'd done things differently so that we could support ourselves fully, like the mature adults we had thought we were, instead of relying on the system). we were 20 and 21 and it was still way too hard--and you're asking this at 17? Also, take everyone else's advice about getting tested for STDs. i would not trust someone who wants to marry a 17 yr old and not use condoms.
please please do not get pregnant (or married) before you are ready. it is not an impossible life, but it is very very difficult to succeed when things happen before a person is ready.

it is not worth it doing it the hard way when you can just as easily do things in their proper timing and have a much less stressful life :)

Answer 2

That depends on whether or not you want to be an single teenage mom and ruin the rest of your life or not.

If you're not already pregnant, then you should get on the birth control pill, the patch, the ring, the IUD, or Depo-Provera injections.
Call Planned Parenthood (you can find them on the Internet or in your local phone book) and make an appointment.

PS Newslfash: ALL young men prefer having sex without condoms. Mature and considerate young men, however, are responsible enough to use one anyway because they think about the consequences of their actions. Plus, if he loves having sex with you without a condom, think about all the other girls he's had sex with, and may have gotten a disease from. You are at high risk of getting not only pregnant but also HIV/AIDS or other sexually transmitted diseases from this guy. Its time for you to think long and hard about what is likely to happen if you continue your current behavior.

Answer 3

Just ask yourself, are ready for an accidental pregnancy? I have a 9 month son now because my ex- fiance loved doing the exact same thing. I love my son and all but I know I wasn't ready to be a mother and neither was my ex. But if you must go without a condom then use some form of birth control, please. You and your fiance have your entire lives after your married and settled to go without one so try to convince him that it's better if you do. BTW, I got prego at 17.

Answer 4

Do you think you are mature enough to even be having sex? Doubtful, but if you are going to be doing the nasty, then you should ALWAYS be protected with both birth control pills and condoms to be extremely safe. Neither will help you with STD's but at least you won't get pregnant... unless you want to get pregnant which in that case I will be honest in telling you that you are damn too young to think about that. But to be honest with your question, he should be wearing a condom since now a days you do not know what the hell guys are doing (or girls). If you are 17 then this guy must be older or your age which in either scenario, the guy isn't to be trusted either way.

Answer 5

It depends upon whether you guys want a baby right now or not. If he does and you don't the answer the answer is birth control. If you do and he does not, the answer is birth control. If you both do and understand the consequences of being a very young parent, then maybe. Chances are you don't and he doesn't either.

Either get on the pill or use a condom, both used consistently and correctly work well.

Answer 6

ok your 17..you don't have to use a condom..he is your fiance so if you get preg i hope he sticks around and you guys have the means of supporting yourselves and the baby..If you dont want to be a mommy but dont want to use a condom I suggest you go to your local health department..they will give you birth control at a price you can afford or even for free..I would suggest an IUD or the depo shot so you dont have to remember a pill everyday..either way good luck to you and merry christmas.

Answer 7

If a guy isn't willing to wear a condom you don't need to be sleeping with him don't feel bullied. On that note if you feel the need to go along with what he says think of your future and two why are you not on the pill if you won' t use a condom. Just be lucky if you are not preggers and get him using a condom til your bc pill takes effect

Answer 8

Before you can love someone you have to love yourself. Meaning pregnancy is not the only problem or situation you can put yourself in-- if you don't use a condom. There are things like HIV and Aids that can kill you. There's all kinds of diseases that you can get, so that is what you need to think about. You can have safe sexual intercourse and enjoy it the same way that you do when you don't use it. Think about yourself before thinking of others..

Answer 9

If you feel like you are ready to take on raising a baby go for it, but seeing that you are just 17 years old and have so much to experience in life I would get on birth control.

Myra

Answer 10

If you do not want kids yet, you better use a condom!!! The pull out method does not always work. Either get put on the pill or use a condom. If your b.f does not agree do not have sex!!!