With me i just had a baby 2 months ago and am ready for action again!!!But my bf feels funny about it because last time we had sex i started having contractions?It was not done on purpose baby came a month early.Aparently even though he passed out and did not see the birth of his son he feels funny about having sex?We are engaged how can i help him get over this?!My sex drive is back! and i lost almost all the baby fat and have no stretch marks!
2006-12-19 06:02:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am ready to jump him and i take care of the baby 80% of the time.What is wrong ith him?
2006-12-19 06:04:47 · update #1
I have tried talking to him but he wont talk to me!
2006-12-19 06:06:14 · update #2
Until this issue is resolved honey, DO NOT MARRY HIM! He is suffering from the Mother/Whore issue, which is very common and usually resolves itself over time. When it doesn't, they only see you as the mother and they look elsewhere for the fun..........
2006-12-19 06:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-22 21:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by Darlene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think watching their wife go through pregnancy and childbirth can have a pretty traumatic effect on some men. When you think about it, it is pretty incredible to see how a body grows, and changes, and then a baby comes from it all. It is a true miracle, and it can frighten men.
Give him time. He'll get it back soon. It's funny - it's usually the woman who has lost her sex drive and the man who is gagging for it! He just sounds like a sensitive guy who needs a bit of time to adjust. He'll come around.
2006-12-19 06:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by helly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel. It strange though, because after i had my son, his dad was ready like the next day. I had had stitches and stuff so i wasn't going there. But definately just talk to him. Men are always using the exuse as if they didn't know. Just tell him. Honey, i need some tonight. Or you can always make him jealous and buy a b.o.b.
"battery opperated bf" and whip out while you guys are in bed. He'll get curious and want to help out.
2006-12-19 06:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Arla F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if your fiancee did not get to see the birth of his son, its still pretty traumatic for him. Although for us woman that go through the pain and taking care of the new baby we just deal with it. Some men take a little more time to adjust to the situation. Just go buy some sexy lingerie from Victoria's Secret on and give him a little action. Your going to have to try a little harder to spice it up. Buy some toys or dvd's if you know what I mean. Maybe then he will want to finish what you started...
2006-12-19 06:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with foreplay, maybe oral, and then just ease into it. Do all this in the dark just to get comfortable again. If none of this works, remind him that you are not pregant anymore and contractions are not even an option.
2006-12-19 06:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the aggressor and let him know it's all ok. That sex will be as good if not better now than before the baby. Just work you magic. It will bring him around.
Best of luck and congratulations!
2006-12-19 06:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about this? Ask him how he feels and take it slow. You don't have to rush it and he may just need a little time.
2006-12-19 06:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that you're no longer pregnant. Tell him sex is important to you and here you are living without something thats important.
2006-12-19 06:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt wanna get you pregnant again maybe. Talk to him and tell him how you feel . Try seduction !
2006-12-19 06:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋