Is it normal to not talk much in a marriage?

Question

I've been married to my husband for 1 year, and it seems like we just don't have much to talk about. Is it normal? We don't have too much fun together, but we definitely love one another. We both work, and have kind of a normal routine. Should we have more to talk about?

Answer 1

No, as long as you are happy. Sometimes being quiet and just spending time together is just as good. But dont let the communication lines get closed either.

Answer 2

Sometimes it is the routine that causes you to not have much to talk about. It's fun and exciting to changes things every once in awhile. Trying going out to dinner at a new place, seeing a movie in the theater, or going to a play. Are there hobbies that you both enjoy together? Or is there something you/he loves to do that you can share with the other?
There are times in any relationship when the chit-chat is going to be quiet. There could be other things going in your life like work stress or other family issues. The thing to realize is are you happy? If not, what would make you happy and talk to your husband about that in a non-confrontation manner. If you really want to connect with him and are having trouble doing that on your own, you may want to consider marital therapy. There is nothing wrong with going to a therapist and it may help open the lines of communication.
I also agree that women, in general, are more chatty than men.

All the best to you!

Answer 3

It is a little bit normal.....you should have some communication though, even if you have been married for a year or 10 years. I talk with my husband about 5 times a day on the phone while we're both at work, and at night.....there are however moments where we both don't have much to say. Maybe you need to get hobbies outside of the marriage.....or maybe both of you can do something together.....that way you will have things to talk about.
Merry Christmas, to you and your family.

Answer 4

They say that the first year of marriage is the hardiest.You are probably just going through a transition period.Did you live with your husband before you got married?You should carve out an hour every night to talk about how your days went.Eventually it will become a habit and not a task.You could even do something that you both enjoy(Besides that!).Perferably something that requires talking like bowling or a board game etc.

Answer 5

It goes thru spurts. Sometimes there will be lots to talk about other times it will seem like there is nothing to talk about. Just make a point to talk at least once at the end of the day even if it is just small chit chat. Keeping the lines of communication constantly open will help for when there is something that needs to be talked about. The fact you love eachother and can be silent probably means you're completely comfortable with eachother more than anything else.

Answer 6

it is normal. Women usually like to talk about things more than men do. It doesn't mean they are not thinking about issues, they just aren't as verbal. I usually start talking about what I would like for us to accomplish over the next year and thoughts I have about someone in the family, and see if he will open up or have a comment. That usually works (for awhile). But, my husband and I have lots of fun together and have lots in common. We both ride horses and train horses, so running the farm and horse problems and events are always subjects we can discuss.

Answer 7

you definately won't chat as much as you used to when you were dating. It's a normal transition into the world of marriage some people might say no- but i think it is- just try not to let it go to far.

my husband and i went through that- after twenty four years we still will never chat as much as when we dated but we chat much more then we did the first few years of marriage, we laugh and joke and tease each other over stupid things.

Your relationship just changes but you have to change along with it, don't expect things to be the way they were when you dated, try to find new things to talk about and do together.

Answer 8

Actually, it's normal, but not healthy for your marriage.
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. You need to be able to discuss your concerns, your interests, your days openly and honestly.
That is not to say you don't now, however, by not talking to each other much, one or both may assume that everything is o.k. when it might not be in some instances. Without an open line of communication you may not feel comfortable discussing those concerns.
Good luck.

Answer 9

If you both don't talk at all, than that's a problem. It gets like that but don't allow it to continue if you feel that there are things that need to be talked about. Good and bad things can come of this so don't make it a habit. Try asking the other how their day went, if anything interesting happened.... it could be very random things also. How about events in your day? It's nice to share and connect with your spouse once in awhile.

Answer 10

Yes it is normal, but it isn't healthy. It is easy to just get bogged down in the everyday muck of life and forget to take the time to appreciate each other. You need to make plans together to go somewhere, even if it is just getting a nice motel room in your own town. That will get you into surroundings that are unfamiliar to both of you and take you out of your same-ole same-ole. Use that time to focus on each other. Play a game of "tell me something about yourself that you don't think I know". Just do things differently and try to make an effort to interact and think of the other person, even if it seems small, each and every day.

Answer 11

No I wouldn't say that was very normal. Most people have something to talk about even if it just what they did during the day at work. You should be communicating at least on some basic level like that.