at what age should my daughter get a bra? she said she wanted one but shes only 11. She also said that in PE when the girls change in the locker rooms that all the girls wear a bra except for her. I have nticed her breasts are developing, but i just am not sure that she's read. what should i do?!?!?!
2006-12-19 05:31:35 · 82 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i think you should let her get a bra, I got one at the age of 9, and at this age, they need one, dont wait until she has developed boobs before gettin her one, this will just cause kids to laugh and tease her,which we both know no one wants for their kids..so go and head and get the girl a bra
2006-12-19 09:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... if she's just developing, she could start wearing a training bra. That's what I had to do - I started growing at the end of 3rd grade (I was so excited about it, too - kept shouting at people "I'm developing!!!!111eleventyone"), and my grandparents got me a training bra - they came in three sizes and I outgrew the largest size a little after I started 4th grade, and then I started wearing sports bras.
She should at least have a sports bra or undershirt she could be wearing, because if she's already dressing out for gym, it's got to be really embarassing to be completely topless in front of all those other girls, and they might start saying something to her soon, making fun of her for not having a bra yet. (I know for a fact that they do this, because when I was 10, me and one of my two best friends already had (little) breasts, while the other one didn't have anything but nubs, and we made fun of her behind her back - I know we were mean. We grew out of it.) Girls can be vicious little demons at that age, all the way to partway through high school.
Get her a bra. Any bra. Something. She's probably really emabarrassed that she doesn't have one yet.
2006-12-19 07:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's developing breasts...this means that you need to get her the right equipment (bras that fit...as well as pads, etc.) and talk to her about her body changing. Developing breasts NEED bras for support...or else her boobs are going to be sagging down to her belly-button when she's 60 years old. And besides, she is a good age for a training bra. Also, she's having to change with other girls who wear bras...maybe they're taunting her and saying that she's just a baby cuz she doesn't wear a bra...or maybe she just feels downgraded and too little-kiddish.
Remember, she is growing up, and you can't stop that. She doesn't need a padded, push-up bra. Far from it, just take her shopping and make it a mother/daughter outing. Like a "growing up" experience. =]
2006-12-19 08:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've noticed her breasts developing than it is time for her to have a bra! Plus, her wanting one is a good thing. A lot of girls don't like, or don't want to wear one, even though they really need to. So starting her with a bra when she wants one will hopefully save you some battles down the road.
2006-12-21 08:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by knihelpu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had to have a bra when i was 7 i had periods by age 9. Im now 17 and im a 32G so the sooner a girl gets support the better. Hell cos i was the first to develop i got picked on i was horrible. I got picked on at highschool cos of my large chest. Id say it would be the same sort of thing for someone who is the last to as well avoid her humiliation and save her dignity get her one of those training bra thingys they arent even a bra as such as they dont even have a cup size but it would make your daughter feel better isnt that what counts?
2006-12-20 02:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by miss89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely time for a training bra. 11 is the new 13! If she is starting to develop, I definitely say go ahead.
Plus, kids do not isolation from others at school.....I remember all the anxious feelings myself during those years.
Get her the bras. Just get the ones that are not too mature looking (i.e. underwire, lace, satin, plunging, etc.) A think a classic white with the tiny pink or white bows in the middle will do just fine. But yes, it will boost her confidence for sure.
2006-12-19 05:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think she' ready for a regular bra just buy her a training bra. Then she won't fell embarrassed about chaging in the locker rooms. Also schools require girls to wear bras at a certain grade. So it's best to get her one now.
2006-12-19 06:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Bianca 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Training bras. You don't want your little girl going to school with out a bra when she's already began to develop. It's very noticeable and i'm sure she's having a hard time dealing with it. If she's ready then why hold her back? It's not a bad thing, we all have to do it sometime.
2006-12-19 05:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take her bra shopping.
If her breasts are developing (or not) and she wants a bra, get her one. There are bras made for girls who are just developing. I remember taking my nieces with me once when shopping for a party dress and lingerie to go with it. I bought them both bras because they wanted them. I kept them simple, no padding, no lace, nothing sexy, and the girls said right away they were more comfortable with the extra coverage.
You can also get her some of those stretch camisoles with the bra built in. They're comfortable and give a little extra coverage.
I remember that what my nieces were self concious about was thier developing nipples poking out under thier shirt, it was embarassing for them.
2006-12-19 05:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's really not a matter of "needing" a bra, but more for dignity. A female person, no matter what age, wants to be recognised and fit in according to her gender. I remember well when I was her age, and I didn't have boobs to speak of until I was nearly 15, so it took my older sister convincing my mom to allow me to wear a little "pseudo" bra around 11 or so years old. And my period? I think I was the next to last girl to start (but that's a whole new question...).
Yes, please do this for your daughter. It will make her very happy, she will not feel out of place, and she will feel feminine.
2006-12-19 05:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋