2006-12-19 05:26:47 · 48 answers · asked by MISSYT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I would.Both sides of the relationship needs to show respect to eachother and talk eachother without name calling. You should beable to calmly discuss things and be there for eachother.and not embarrasing you in public. he should treat you how he wants to be treated. HE needs to learn how to control his anger and treat you like an adult and not like a kids under his control. It doesn't sound like a healty relationship. Love is not hatefull and rude. I think it could slowly become abusive if he is not stopped now.But do not stay in a relationship in which you do not feel safe in or question. Life is too short and everyone deserves the best love. And with someone in which anyone does not feel safe or confortable with.You should not be made to feel any worse only better for you and who you are.You have to be and nothing else. Don't change for anyone, other than you or in the long run you won't be happy.Good luck!
2006-12-19 05:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by swtluvingcntrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is emotionally abusive toward you. You need to have a talk with him and explain to him how this behavior makes you feel. Speak to him in a non-accusatory manner. Start by telling him that you love him very much and that you value your relationship, but that when he treats you like this in public or in private for that matter, that he makes you feel as if you don't mean anything to him and that you would appreciate him stopping this behavior. He has to get control of himself. If he feels that he's not doing anything wrong, then whenever he does this bring it to his attention. "You're doing it again. Stop it!!!! I do not speak to you in this manner, so don't you do it!" Start putting your foot down about it. Don't act hurt, because that is what he is trying to do.
If it is out of hand, advise him to get counseling, maybe marriage counseling. If he refuses, YOU get the counseling. That way you can help yourself.
Lots of luck, hon.
2006-12-19 05:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Words are abusive also and that could be little red flags in a relationship. First, he calls you names, Next thing you know he's got his hands on you. If he is continuously doing this to you tell him how you feel and let him know this is serious, if that doesnt work, you might have to seek professional counseling. Good luck, no man deserves to treat a lady like that.
2006-12-19 05:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by Still Standing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...this is how physical abuse starts out. They start with verbal abuse andthen as they gain confidence and power they start to push, shove, and grab. It then escalates to hitting and confinement.
This is a very big flag for abusive relationships. If you can fix it now or get out now then you are saving yourself alot of grief later and possibly saving your life.
This is the easiest time to leave. The more abusive he gets the more mental damage is done to you and the harder it will become to leave.
If you let him abuse you mentally now then your future relationships will be affected as well as any relationships you may have with your children or future children.
Good Luck, be strong.
2006-12-19 05:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ace Meridian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you recognize what you want to do. supply up looking on the previous and look on the present, the guy is ABUSIVE! It doesn't sound like he needs to modify or if he even believes he's doing some thing incorrect. honestly, you may be doing your self and your little ones a large disservice by technique of staying with a guy who does no longer have your perfect activity at coronary heart. you're saying that he's emotionally abusive...what stops him from turning actual? You do have 12 years of marriage to ascertain, so divorce may no longer be the instantaneous determination. instead, I propose that you all separate and search for kin counseling and anger administration (properly on your husband). If he refuses, then you actually favor to do even with you may to easily remember to and your little ones are danger-free. i desire each and everything works out! :-)
2016-11-27 20:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by desantiago 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it very rude to tell anyone to "shut up" and yes, it is abusive whether it is in public or in private. The two of you need to get some counseling if you are going to remain together. It is rude, disrespectful and abusive. Good luck to you and God bless****
2006-12-19 05:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's considered verbal abuse. Sometimes, and God forbid, this eventually turns into a physically abusive relationship. It sounds like he's controlling. I would seek marriage counselling now before it gets worse. Good luck.
2006-12-19 05:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. I have been to counseling for the very same thing sometimes it just as bad as a physical abusive relationship.
2006-12-19 05:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! You are being treated like someone he has no respect for.Most likely because he is insecure and feels the need to belittle you in order to make himself feel superior to you.
If I was you I would turn to him and tell him how much those words hurt and that you know you deserve to be treated better than that.Either he See's his error and corrects it along with an apology,Or you realize he is a hurtful self indulged person and you move on.Trust me you will find better.
2006-12-19 05:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that's abusive. If he's going to display such acts in public, I'd be afraid of what he'd do in the privacy of your own home.
2006-12-19 05:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by zimmiesgrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋