My mom doesn't like Christmas at all. Every year she tells us that we won't do presents. Me and my sisters always get something for each other. And my dad always get us some stuff. So our Christmas isn't horrible but most of the time it's kinda depressing, wondering whether we'll get presents any presents or not. I know presents isn't what Christmas is about. But it's exciting waiting a hoping for that gift that you really want, and wondering what's underneath that wrapping paper.
2006-12-19 05:25:45 · 4 answers · asked by dragon_girl441 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
By the way what she doesn't like mostly is the whole presents thing.
2006-12-19 05:31:48 · update #1
And also, it's not money issues.
2006-12-19 05:35:29 · update #2
Why doesn't your Mom like Christmas? If it's a religious thing, why not celebrate the Winter Solstice? It's on the 21st this year and it's a celebration of the shortest day of the year and that the days will become longer and we'll go back to spring soon. You can still do presents and have a tree (they're not tied to any particular religion anyway), and you can focus on cherishing your family. Try Hanukkah, Yule, St. Nicholas Day or another holiday instead. Maybe New Years could be your big family holiday?
I think you should talk to your Mom. Tell her that you want to celebrate this time of year because it's a celebration of your family and how you care for one another. Perhaps she had some pretty crappy Christmases when she was a kid, so she doesn't want to celebrate it now. Something could be reminding her of a bad time. Moving the celebration to another day or making your own traditions could help.
If it's just presents, could it be financial issues? Try making gifts for each other, and perhaps that would make her happier. Is she uncomfortable about receiving gifts, or does she hate shopping? Online shopping is always an option.
2006-12-19 05:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Pears 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother just plain doesn't believe in Christmas, as part of her religion, so I grew up without celebrating it. My dad believes in it, but didn't push the issue when he and mum were still together. These days he sends me a cheque every Christmas. Mum doesn't care that all her kids get a bit involved in Christmas stuff now (mainly because of our partners) - she just stands to the side and doesn't get involved. I guess because of my upbringing, I never really got into the spirit of Christmas, so I'm not overly fussed about it. It's a day off work, and various family members want to see me and give me stuff. Can't complain. I think I get more of a buzz from giving other people stuff, seeing their faces when they realise I actually know something about them, and got something appropriate.
2006-12-19 13:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't your mother like Christmas? Is she against Jesus? I'm sorry to hear that your mother can't think of anyone other than her own feelings at this time of year. Maybe you should talk to her and find out what she has against Christmas. Listen to her and then you do some talking. About how you feel about how she acts around Christmas time. Maybe you can help each other out. God bless you!
2006-12-19 13:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My Mom can't stand Christmas. She is the original BAH HUMBUG person. Luckily, my Dad adores Christmas and played Santa at every childhood event I can remember.
2006-12-19 13:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋