I go to an eating disorder recovery support group once a week for 2 hours. Only one other person knows I struggle with an eating disorder (although others speculate) and I don't feel like it is anyone else's business. However, I have a very tight-knit group of friends who hang out all the time. Whenever they do something while I'm at my meeting, which is pretty much every week, they always ask where I am or ask my roommate where I am. They won't let up about it. I try to joke and say something like booty call, but they think something is up with me. How can I get them to respect my privacy without acting suspicious or shady about it?
2006-12-19 05:16:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
By the way we are all in our 20's if that makes a difference
2006-12-19 06:58:46 · update #1
Ask them to respect your privacy in this matter.You may tell them you are assisting someone you care very much for through a personal and private challenge. If they persist,tell them that you would not betray their trust and would hope they would not betray yours.
2006-12-19 05:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by wonder woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, kudos to you for being on your way to recovery. although i understand your want to keep your problem a secret, if you make your problem public to your friends, it will really aid in your healing.
with me, i have a very close group of six friends...who i can't imagine not telling my innermost thoughts and secrets, so it's a little hard for me to understand where you're coming from. if you still don't want to open up to them, just say you are going to a bible study that day a week---or you have to stay late at work, or you always go out with your family that day a week...or just tell them you are involved in a karate class or like, you are playing women's floor hockey at the Y...
i always believe though that honesty is the best policy :)
congratulations hun! merry christmas!
2006-12-19 06:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth. besides part of the problem you had before whetther or not you'll ever admit it to yourself is peer pressure,
your friends can even manipulate you into thinkin fat is bad, by laughing at the fat kids,making jokes, or even just laughing. and unless they spell out why Exactly their laughing(no body ever does so don't hold yer breath)you''l feel uncomfortable and out of place. so to fit in lets expel that last meal, I kid you only because i've seen the worst of the worst in this situation, and i was part of the cause, just being myself. I had no idea that someone would care what I have to say that much.yuch. but recovery is IMpORTANT, and you should consider this, recovering drug addicts are told to lose their old friends because they all are a bad influence.Well,are your friends skinny and stylish and attractive as all hell?be cause that won't change...Not unless they see how it affects people...SO WHY HIDE IT DAMNIT?
GOOD LUCK
-M
2006-12-19 06:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by MAX POWER 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them it's a private matter and you would rather not discuss it. It's non of their business and if they can't understand it and won't leave you alone about it, then they are not very good friends. If they continue bothering you about it, just don't answer them or change the subject. They will get tired of asking you and quit.
2006-12-19 05:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all i am happy to see that you are taking action and helping your life...kudos
just tell them that you have an issue your taking care of and As soon as your done with it you Can be with them every time they wanna go out. and if they continue to ask you about it tell them in a polite kind of way to back off about it and that if you feel like you need to tell them you will. if they still don't get off your back for not telling them anything and they pull out the " but i thought we are friends" card then just tell them that you thank them for being concerned but right now you have to deal with this on your own and will let them know if you need there help...if that don't work, i don't know what to say hon.....sry
2006-12-19 05:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you don't wanna tell stuff like this even to your closest friends. I think people should get that if a person don't wanna tell something they should just step back. Maybe they are worried for you. Tell them you're ok and that there's no reason for them to be worried.
2006-12-19 05:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This coming from the nosey girl herself, tell them. You'll be surprised at how they respond. At times like this, you know if they are or aren't your friends. OR you could totally bull$%it your way through, like yeah..a booty call sounds interesting, haha
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-19 06:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to be more trusting with you. kindly ask them why are you guys always acting as if something is wrong with me and tell them to back off a little its good that they care but they're crossing the line.
2006-12-19 05:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
[for the question you just answered of mine, i dont really have budget lol. i normally shop at hot topic,pac sun,delias, sometimes hollister. my parents want me to shop at abercrombie and all that but thats not my style so yeahi can afford high prices. instead of doing this ill add details in so check my question after you answer more of this. so yeah jsut liek edit your question and tpye what you had in mind after i told you this.]
2006-12-19 07:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them that you have a family meeting on that day..or tell them that you are trying to get a education on the side
2006-12-19 05:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋