My son told me I need to reschedule Christmas Eve for late morning ( instead of 3:00 ) because my ex is having them at 3 and then they are going to his side at 5. I said no, we're keeping it at 3 and now I'm being chastised for it by my son. Just because it woud be more convenient for my ex, should I have to put the rest of my family out ?
2006-12-19 05:15:26 · 13 answers · asked by momof5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My parents have divorced and I have this problem every year. For the sake of your kids, try to be the bigger person and be more flexible this year. Next year, talk to your ex and pre-arrange times for holiday visits. That way...everyone wins but the kids do not feel guilty for going one place and not the other.
2006-12-19 05:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! he knows your plans, so he is just doing this to be a jerk! If your son is so upset (and old enough) let him go with his Dad. Keep the rest of the kids with you and have a nice Christmas. (your son will feel like a jerk later for being so mean to you, and maybe think of your feelings next time instead of his dad's. Remember not to yell, just let him know how upset you are he won't be there with his family, and keep in mind-we all know his dad is playing the "victim" here, so don't put it all on your son, he will figure it out one day (as we all did). MERRY CHRISTMAS
2006-12-19 05:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the day planned on your time schedule if it's at your place, rather he makes it or not.
If you gave in this year, you'll have to or be expected to the rest of your life.
Your son has to realize that Dad can change his times too, and by you not changing, then maybe next year he'll see that he's not in control as a son.
2006-12-19 05:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex scheduled first and you want the kids to be at your house for christmas, reschedule. Don't be a jerk, at least not this time of year.
2006-12-19 05:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's being put out over it? Maybe you, but that's it.
What you're really doing here is punishing your ex.
Your son is right by being upset by your decision. You could easily make allowances in the interest of harmony over the holiday.
2006-12-19 05:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put them out? For your childrens sake? YES. Unless you want your children to resent you and keep in mind that i'm assuming your children aren't in a position to be able to control either faimily decision. You can't imagine the spot children are put in when there are divorces and both sides of the family to please. It's misery.
2006-12-19 05:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MADE THE RIGHT DECISION. WE HAVE A LARGE FAMILY AND EVERY HOLIDAY SOMEONE WANTS TO CHANGE THINGS, AND NOTHING EVER GOES AS PLANNED.
YOU SHOULD STICK TO THE PLAN. AFTER ALL YOU HAVE FEELINGS AS WELL, PERHAPS YOUR SON SHOULD PONDER THAT, INSTEAD OF CHASTISING YOU!
2006-12-19 05:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by ball_courtney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the higher road this year. And if it really bothers you got get your visitation agreement altered to make definate times for holidays
2006-12-19 05:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, its not putting "the rest of the family out"....just YOU.
2006-12-19 05:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Studmuffin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.who's house are you in? 2. you made your plan's. stick to them. 3.if son don't like your plans, he can do other thing's. my wife and i have same thing going on with her kidd. we are going on with OUR plans.we feel when they have their own house, they can set the plan's that fits them. more so grown kidd's. until they have their own, this is how it is.
2006-12-19 05:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by waljac6108 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋