There going threw a divorce as we speak. I'm happy with him we dated for a long time in high school and 10yrs later we decide to get back togethe. The pregnancy was not planned it just happend I already have a 5yr old son who's been buggin me about a sister or a brother. I just dont know what to do i'm not sure if he wants me to keep it or if I want to keep it. What should I do? I no we will be good parents. What do we do?
2006-12-19 05:06:21 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to decide for yourself on what you want to do...no one else can make that decision for you.
2006-12-19 05:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will be the one to not throw you any psuedo christian beliefs. It's your body and you can do what you want. I for one would never bring a child into this shitty world...but that's just me.
You both should have been smarter about birth control. It's both of your responsibility. This means when you feel him entering you without a condom and you know you're not on birth control...SAY SOMETHING! That's your part...his is getting the condom and putting it on. Both of you should not have been nippleheads about STD's and children. Grow up.
There are enough children on this planet...it's OK, we're just using up all of our natural resources and killing the planet. You know, the one they are stuck with once we die. Yeah that's right have another kid because they are "miracles" and you won't have to see their children's children living in oxygen bubbles on top of a million others in a compound and unable to go outside.
Nevermind any of that...those are just my opinions on the ridiculous answers that some of these people are giving you. It's your body...you should talk to him about it because the child is his as well...but when it comes down to it, you are carrying the baby and it's your right as a person who has to endure that hardship to say yes or no in regards to keeping it. And I am glad that you are happy...that's always good to hear. Good luck.
2006-12-19 13:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by jables 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know the final decision lies with you since you are the one that will have to carry baby. It was careless of you to have unprotected sex especially when you know the man is going through a divorce and probably don't any children right now. He needs time to regroup from the divorce. But since you are keep it and deal with whatever may happen. Congratulations and Good luck.
2006-12-19 13:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it because of you that they are divorcing. If you were her and he made someone else pregnant, how would you feel? If he did it to her the chances are strong you will walk the same road. Worse still you are taking on a man with baggage and what happened between him and his wife will follow the same pattern. You will have to live with the consequences of the choice that you made and quite frankly I think it was not very wise! One cannot build a home on top of the misery of another family.
Good luck to you. I wouldnt want to be in your shoes!
2006-12-19 13:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! as much as I want a child with my B/F, i know that i have to talk with him before we have unprotected sex. You brought this upon yourself. Do you have the financial means to bringing up two children in a good home alone. Think of the your son and your unborn child and then decide. I know children are wonderful but not if they have to suffer because you made a mistake again by not using protection. I believe children should be born from two commited and stable adults married or not.
2006-12-19 14:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by its me a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got yourself into a situation, didn't you??? Haven't you heard of protection? Well I guess that's a little late now, isn't it? I would pray your fanny off that this divorce goes through and you're not just the rebound girl..........You're already raising one kid alone. I wouldn't think raising a second one alone would be very easy for you. Talk to him about it, now.....Don't go blaming this on your 5 year old asking for a sibling either! You should know right from wrong. Both of you should!
2006-12-19 13:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should openly discuss it with him then decide if you should keep the baby or not. if you can bring up the baby well even without him, you should keep it. it's not the baby's fault.
and divorces are usually really messy so that might add a strain to your relationship so the most important thing is to be really open with each other bbout your feelings and thoughts.
anyway, that's so sweet that you guys got back together after so long. :)
2006-12-19 13:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me he's not getting a divorce to be with you you must be crazy, you did plan to have a baby.there is something call condoms, you should not have a baby for a man going through a divorce. you will end up raising two without fathers instead of the one. let that man get his divorce live the single life for a while cool out with his friends, if he needs you be there for him but don't push yourself in on him. you may lose.
2006-12-19 13:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him this situation but refer to him this happened to a friend and see his reaction. From there you will see your next action. But isn't it too soon? He's on a verge of divorce and might be the last thing in his mind is a baby. Or maybe his wife will not grant him divorce if she'll know about this jst to spite him.
2006-12-19 13:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by mareko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what he wants, it's your body. If you love each other, the baby will be a blessing even if now it feels like it's not. Take each day as it comes, but be sure to talk openly and be honest with each other. If it really is necessary, give the baby up, don't have an abortion. Good luck and hugs to you both.
2006-12-19 13:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what he wants its what you want and if you think that you can financially and emotionally take care of another child with or without him then go for it. I think you have already made up your mind on what you want to do but just know that most people after there divorce is final want a little freedom to "play" per say.
2006-12-19 13:11:56 · answer #11 · answered by HARWOODH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋