2006-12-19 04:48:25 · 10 answers · asked by cliffhanger 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have many women in my family and several of my friends who have had at least one. They are all very unhappy with the decision they made. Come to think of it I don't know anyone who is proud of the fact and is open to talk about it. I was just wondering how I could be better support to these women in my life. Thank you
2006-12-19 05:33:54 · update #1
I recommend http://www.healinghearts.org for any woman who has aborted a child.
If anyone is currently thinking about aborting, please visit http://Abort73.com
2006-12-21 06:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not all about telling people they are going to hell for having an abortion, but using that as your sole means of birth control is pathetic...and I don't mean just one time as an accident. (Before you get mad, keep reading...)
This girl I worked with has five kids and she's only 27. Great. I found out I was pregnant and the father was no where in sight (which is actually a GOOD thing) and I was talking to her b/c...I just needed someone to talk to. She said, "If you're not ready, then have an abortion." I told her that I'm not so sure that's an option for me. I mean, I was emotional and scared and I very well could have had one, but something gripped me so tight and told me to keep it. Well, she then went on to tell me she's had abortionS. Yes, multiple. Why? Because she didn't want kids at the times that she found out. OK. So how many, you ask? FOUR! Now that's what I mean about being pathetic. OK. Once...maybe. Twice...really, you need to learn the cause and effect of sex...anything else, should be completely illegal. Now, that's what I mean about using it as the sole means of BC. I just couldn't imagine. I just don't get it. She has 5 kids, but decided to abort 4 more. And the first time she got pregnant, she had an abortion...then, she had a kid...and the rest of the abortions happened in between kids b/c she was not ready. I just couldn't wrap my head around what made her keep some of them and not the others...and what made her so immature to NOT use protection....I mean, she told me she didn't use ANYTHING! So it wasn't even an accident.
So right before I quit that job for a new job, I found out she was pregnant again...guess what? She didn't have a baby....
2006-12-19 05:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by Hootie562 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anyone who has had an abortion and I'm not OK with it. I think many women (especially on this site) say, "Oh, it's only a blob of cells." blah blah blah and act like it's nothing. Unfortunately, they won't listen to reason and they end up having one, and THEN find out exactly what the pro-life people have been trying to tell them all along. After the fact, I'm sure they put up a strong facade and act like it was nothing, but I imagine a good many of these women are aching inside for what they've done to their unborn baby and their own body. It's a shame, a sad, sad shame.
2006-12-19 07:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My mother had an abortion when she was 16 and seems to be totally fine about it. She wanted me to have an abortion at 18 but i said no. My sister had an abortion at 16,(2 yrs ago) and still gets sad at the time the baby would have been born. But she was raped so it was a little bit different situation. All in all everyone is gonna feel different. Some people don't even know they're gonna feel a certain way until they do.
2006-12-19 05:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had one and have never had any depression about it or felt ashamed. It was the right decision for me at that time. I have since went on to have 3 kids since then. I did, however, lose my first one to SIDS when she was 5 month old and there were times after that happened that I wondered if i was being punshed for it. That, I know now, was just part of the grieving process and that her passing had nothing to do with me or anyone else for that matter. If you know people who are struggling with it then maybe they thought they were doing it for the right reason but really were not, or maybe someone helped push them toward that decision and now they regret it.
2006-12-19 07:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by shannonmangan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure. I had one at 19. The guy I was dating was 28 and I was very naive and he let me be. I didn't know enough about birth control and he just didn't bother. I had an abortion and never once regretted it. I have since had a set of perfect twins (now 14 ) and pregnant again with a new baby. It was the best decision for ME - no one Else's opinion matters.
2006-12-19 04:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by jachooz 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I had one on Nov. 11 of this year and yes I'm ok with it. It wasn't the right time and we couldn't have raised it right (we have 3 kids already of my boyfriends). Someday I'll have my own kids but we were better off doing it this way right now. I don't think I could do it again but it's all good. Good luck
2006-12-19 05:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Melba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should do what YOU feel is best. It is your decision and good or bad, you'll have to live with it. I know people who have regretted it and I know people who haven't. It just depends on the situation. I, personally, do not believe in abortion but its not my job to preach to you or judge you. You have to do what is best for you and your unborn child. It's your body, it's your deal. I wish you the best of luck in your decision.
2006-12-19 05:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by katymlady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I Have never had one...But I believe they are wrong and nothing in the world would ever change my mind about that. Your body and your choice of course. But your also the one who made the choice and put your body in the situation. If i were you Id do some research on abortion. Its pretty disgusting.
2006-12-19 05:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes, me. I do not regret having the abortion and have NEVER regretted it, although i do regret putting myself in a position to have needed it. It was 16 years ago now. I have never suffered depression, beat my self up over it and can still have kids. I wouldn't do it again tho, Im older and wiser now
2006-12-19 04:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋