Is it okay for me to have another baby shower? I have a 3 year old. When I was pregnant with him I had a baby shower(my mIl threw it for me) and now am pregnant again with my 2nd. There is talk of throwing me another baby shower and registering again.
I said "no" it isn't appropriate for either. Is this right? I thought that I am suppose to have only 1 baby shower and 1 time registering. I don't want to be put in a position of feeling uncomfortable by someone throwing me another shower if it isn't the right thing to do. I don't want people to talk and say...ohh can you imagine she is having another shower.
What is the right thing to do? or not to do?
2006-12-19 04:31:59 · 39 answers · asked by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
In my family..there is a shower for every baby...Why not?
2006-12-19 04:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by James Dean 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is appropriate because I have 2 kids and I am pregnant with my third. I have had a baby shower for both my kids. I'm also, going to have one for the one I am pregnant with. So, far all of my baby showers have turned out great! You can never have enough baby stuff. Oh and the whole registering again isn't really any different from the first time.
2006-12-19 04:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Pretty Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby shower with both of my girls and happy I did. Babies are expensive, and every pack of diapers you get, or cute little outfits saves you money that you will need after the baby comes. I am almost 6 weeks pregnant with number 3 and I look forward to my baby shower. Its ok to have one, just so long you didn't ask for it or anything like that, don't feel guilty, enjoy it and be thankful there are people out there that want to get you things and celebrate your baby's soon to be life. Congrats and best of luck to you and your little baby.
2006-12-19 04:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by kristin h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the right thing to do is to not stress about what other people do or are going to do:)
i know, easier said than done b/c like you, i stress about things like this.
however, take it from someone who worries about etiquette and the "right" things, don't worry about having a 2nd shower.
it's nice that she wants to throw you another shower, so let her and enjoy the time with friends and family,oh, and the cool new baby stuff!
now, as for registering, i'd just let her know that you think it's great that she is throwing you another shower, but you don't really feel it's necessary to register. tell her that you have most baby things, so if people want to just get staples like, bath stuff, clothes and diapers, then that would be great!!!
let her know that you are mostly excited to have everyone together again in your honor!
this is what i would do.
take care and happy holidays:)
2006-12-19 04:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by joey322 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
normally you only have a shower for the first baby. However- nowadays it seems acceptable if the mother gets remarried and the baby is with a new father or if a long time has passed since the last baby. I have 14 year old twins and I am due with a new baby Feb 2. I have no other kids in between. My new mother in law is having a shower for me........since it's been 14 years. I think 3 years is not an appropriate amount of time to have a shower. Purhaps you can change it into a Christianing party if yo are in to that.
2006-12-19 04:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I know people who have showers for all of their kids. Why shouldn't you have a baby shower? It isn't like you wont need anything. It isn't like this child isn't special too, and worth celebrating. Think of it as a celebration, entering the baby into the world. I am sure you don't have ALL of the baby things from your 1st. Even more reason to have it. If people feel as thought it is not a good thing for you to have another shower, they don't have to attend.
2006-12-19 04:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fine to have a baby shower for each child.
Actually, I had 3 for my first son. My mom threw a surprise one for my side of the family, my mother in law had one for my husband's side of the family, and my coworkers had one for
our office. I had 3 for my daughter (my second child) as well.
I am, now, pregnant, again. Rumor has it, I'm having a "surprise"
shower Saturday and another next week at work.
Just go along with the shower ideas.....everyone is excited about babies....even if you have more than one.
2006-12-19 04:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each Baby is it's own "Miracle." They should be treated as such. A baby shower is just a party to celebrate the baby and the mom. Maybe if you don't feel comfortable don't register and say gifts not needed. or have a theme party.Like everyone buy their favorite book from when they were a kid to give to the new baby. Or a naming party. Everyone brings you a name as their gift to you. But definitely celebrate. You might regret it later. I did.
2006-12-19 04:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kristin B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No having another shower is fine you get one with each baby, My 2nd and 3rd were both boys and since I had everything already but clother 1-12 months I asked for just diapers and clothes a diaper bag and odds and ends. I got mostly outfits and gift cards but I asked for outfits from newborn -12 months and had a ton. Some one got me all the onsies I would need for a year, another got me socks and booties and shoes in all sizes. It was great there is always something to get =)
2006-12-19 04:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
the right thing to do is to celebrate your new baby. Why don't you consider just having a "birth day" party after you come home with the baby. Make it a day for the family. To celebrate mommy and baby coming home, 3 year old being a sibling, and daddy helping you all through it. Maybe people can even bring something small for "big brother/sister" to make him/her really feel a part of it. IF you don't feel right asking people for gifts, and don't need a lot of stuff, don't register, just tell them if they want to bring something for the kids, they can. Make it more casual, invite everyone,(male and female) and have a good time.
2006-12-19 04:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let them throw you a baby shower. You're going to need new onesies and baby blankets and booties. I have 3 kids and they're all 2 years apart. I had a baby shower for each one. But I never asked for it-other people planned it for me. So go ahead-do it.
2006-12-19 04:35:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋