My spouse never discuss with me our finances!?

Question

He feels that I dont contribute enough to our household after the fact he already made a decision on adding more credit card bills to our debt.

Answer 1

You need to explaine it doesn't matter how much you contribute the fact is that you contribute and if he con't discuss your financial obligations with you then you will no longer contribute what ever it is that you are contribiting

Answer 2

A marriage is between 2 people. All financial decisions should be made together. If your husband cant see this then maybe you need to get a job make you own money and keep it in your own account where he has no access...see how he feels then. But then again why play the game? Tell him things need to change and you want to be more involved or your leaving. Why would you want to stay in a marriage where your partner doesn't look at you as an equal?

Answer 3

That's not kewl. You need to have a heart to heart with him that it's your life and your future too and you have a right to know about the finances and budget. If he refuses then it's time to make sure you can support yourself...don't turn over your check to him (get your own account) and work/save enough so that when things hit the fan, you can take care of yourself.

Someone who has so little respect for you and what you do, doesn't sound like a very good partner...I'll bet he's got other control issues as well.

Answer 4

Do you work? You contribute just as much as he does, and don't think anything else.
You have a right as an equal partner in this marriage to know how and where the money is being spent.
Do not let him get away with this behaviour,. you must stand up to him and get the details.
He could be selling your credit down the river and you could be in financial trouble,
Demand to know and don't let up.

If he decides to add credit cards you are responsible to pay them if he doesn't...
You had better sit down and talk to him now, or make an appointment with a credit counselor.

Answer 5

In my opinion, whether you work or not, and how much you contribute financially to the household is irrelevant - being that you're married, you're just as much responsible for the finances as he is, therefore it's your right to have access to your household financial records. You seriously need to put your foot down about this. If he won't allow you to see the bank statements, bills, etc...call or visit the bank or creditor yourself and ask to see your current statements.

Answer 6

You contribute to the household by keeping it clean and feeding him, washing clothes, and sleeping with him. what more does he want. You should know everything that is going on. If he is charging stuff you need to sit down with him and tell him to grow up and quit acting like a kid. The decissions should be made together, that is why you got married. a couple means 2 people not one.

Answer 7

Tell him that since you don't get any say in what happens with the finances because you "don't contribute enough" you have decided to withhold contributing at all.

He shouldn't complain since you don't contribute much anyway, right?

The fact is that when you became man and wife you became one. What he is doing is unfair, unwise and is not very loving. I feel badly for you.

Answer 8

You don't contribute anything? Money isn't everything, but be careful as you could end up as responsible for the bills as he is!

Many times ther is a reason he doesn't want you to know, but you have a right to know. Relationnships are not one way and he needs to be aware that you contribute! Financially how much is not material!

Answer 9

The formula is simple. Figure out how many hours, on average, a homemaker performs each task, multiply those hours by the appropriate wage and come up with an impressive and completely overblown annual figure.

Economics and the real world...tell your husband the truth !! You deserve to be in an EQUAL partnership...well, if you want the marriage to last anyways..

Answer 10

I don't really know what to tell you because to me it sounds like he doesn't respect you if he is saying you don't contribute enough to have a say in things. This is something you need to deal with soon before he tries to say you don't have a say in other things like the kids, after all....you don't contribute enough to support them, so why should you have a say?.....Get my point?
Whether you contribute a little or none at all, it's a relationship, you're partners 50-50, Yes you do have a say! I couldn't imagine my husband saying such a thing to me!